"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Strange to see someone in the mainstream news voice out against V-Day

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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speakeasy

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I think he makes good points, but I think people make too big a deal out of this. I send my parents cards on mother and father's day. Sometimes send my mom flowers on mother's day. That's a made up holiday too, but they like it so I do it. Halloween is made up. It's a night to go out and party basically. Can't you party any night? Or did the costume industry make it up just so everyone goes out and buys a costume? If you aren't Irish, why celebrate St. Patrick's day, can't you just go out and get drunk any other night? People who aren't Mexican go out and celebrate Cinco de Mayo. See what I mean? I just don't see the big deal in isolating out Valentine's day only. People are too uptight over this.
 

Alle_Gory

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Haha. Its true. I see so many of my friends hook up into 'relationships' with guys this week JUST before V-Day.
 

theunflushables

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Because valentines has more corporate greed attached to it than anyother nonreligious holiday. Watch some commercials on tv right now. Zales is telling you to buy this diamond and flowers.com saying you need that many roses so she knows you love her. Its this whole premise that if you don't go out and blow your life savings to show your appreciation of your woman you are a heartless bastard. I have never seen an influx of beer commercials right before St. Pat's.

I do find it kind of amusing that the holiday of love has turned itself into a giant corporate wh0re.
 

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I luv this,I agree with this guy 100%. I don't know about the encouragment of others not to buy into the commericalism. People can be fools if they d@mn well please. :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OzyBoy

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Too over commercialized. I would rather just let my girlfriend know i love her, give her flowers (picked from the garden) and make a nice dinner at home. :D
 
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