"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Strange Symptoms.

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So far, 2 major: I have no appetite. I've lost about 10 kilograms from not eating lately. And second: I havn't had a boner in the last week. And before that, they were pretty damn rare.

Anyone ever heard of anything like this? What this could mean?

I'm not yet sure I should go to the doc...

Edit: Weight loss started 2 months ago.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Did any major event happen in your life that you think might've caused this? What's your diet like when you do eat? How much water do you drink? Do you take multvitamins? How often do you exercise?
 

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Not really...

Mom's cooking... Very usual home cooked meals.

About 1 litre a day. I hate the taste of soda's and other beverages now. :-/

Nope.

I go jogging about 2-3 times a week. And then play Squash on weekends.
 

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I'm sorry but "mom's cooking" doesn't tell me sh1t about your diet :p (especially considering you live in a different country...) How about you tell me what exactly you've eaten for the past 3 days? Don't feel bad if it hasn't been great - the more honest you are the more help you can get. I also forgot to ask what your sleeping patterns are. Do you sleep for 8 hours a day and go to bed and wake up at nearly the same time every day?

But for starters I can tell you that you're not drinking nearly enough water and depending on your diet, you might be slightly malnurished since you don't take a multivitamin. Try doubling the amount of water you drink, and go buy some quality multivitamins.
 

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LoL

Mkay. For brekkies I'll usually have ham and cheese sandwitches or some eggs or toast... your typical breakfasts. Lunch usually a salad or soup, if I have any lunch at all, that is. My last three dinners: fried chicken breasts with rice, salad on the side. Day before: lamb chops with mash, salad on the side. Even before: chicken curry with egg noodles, salad on the side.

:p I really don't think it's malnutrition. And yeah, I'll start drinking more water from now on....

As for how I sleep. Exactly 7 hours and 15 mins each night. I'm pretty disciplined with my sleeping and waking times. at 8 hours on the mark, I'm in REM sleep, and that makes it hard for me to wake up.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Uhm, to add. I eat VERY small portions. About half a chicken breast, one spoonscoop of rice and maybe 4 bites of salad, and I'm full. Mornings... half a sandwitch... and when I eat soup: that's about a cup or so.

Edit: btw, I do smoke. Don't drink at all, though. :-/
 

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Well there's the answer to your boner problem :p Smoking tends to affect that negatively. I can't believe I forgot to ask that. Quit smoking if you want your libido back. You'll also probably start putting on weight if you quit smoking.

You're eating healthy enough, though I still suggest taking a multivitamin and drinking more water. It doesn't sound like you have no appetite if you're always eating 3 meals. Usually when people don't have an appetite they skip breakfast. There is a difference between hunger and appetite. Appetite is the psychological drive to eat. Hunger is the physical feeling of pain when you don't eat, and the physical feeling of fullness when your stomach can't fit much more food in there. You just have a smaller stomach from eating small meals. Start slowly increasing the size of your meals to expand the size of your stomach.

If you follow my advice (especially quitting smoking), and your condition doesn't improve in a month, go see a doctor.
 

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My guess is its a psychological cause.

Are you depressed?
 
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