Strange signs - new & interesting info tho!

[silverwex]

Hey guys,

Right, I hate over-analyzing etc but Im bored today and was wondering if a certain girl is interested or what... So here goes:

(Names - fictional)
AMY- Girl who i have got with over the past few weeks - sounds cruel but shes so easy.
GEMMA- Girl im into, snogged her a few times, not too recently tho.
MARY- Gemma's best friend, I know her pretty well.

Anyway Gemma and me usually get together when we see eachother out. But the last two times nothign has happened. Maybe she was waiting for me to make my usual move!?

- Gemma asked me a few times to go to a local club with her and Mary last week. She also approached me first (challenge). I said 'Maybe later, I dunno yet'. Ended up meeting them in the club (had to pay 10euro to get in) so i went staright over to Gemma and say to her 'Hey im after paying 10euro to get in! Buy me a drink!' and she does! We talk and dance for the night but no physical contact. She seems fairly distracted at the end of the night. Leaves early and we hug and kiss (on cheeks!).

- Another time i went to a party, she came staright over to me and asked me 'Do you wanna kiss me?' to which i said yeah!

- Last story (for now!) - Was in a club with her she sitting beside me, she puts her head on my shoulder and says shes tired etc. I make a move and we spend the rest of the night together (in the club).

They're only three stories from a whole bunch. Shes not with someone as far as i know and shes the sweet, nice kind of girl. I used to be major AFC with her until i found this site (thanks guys!) and since ive applied the DJ mindset on myself shes been coming onto me more than me onto her! Its great!

Only thing is shes not into relationships. But thats fine w me! She seems kinda interested tho and ive never seen her with any other fella all the times ive seen her out.

ANYWAY - heres the deal. Ive found out something that could be quite interesting - Apparently MARY warned AMY off me as MARY knows that im into GEMMA. What does this mean?

Did GEMMA say that shes into me and is worried i might end up with AMY? And was MARY doing her dirty work by warning AMY off me?

Basically, is GEMMA interested judging by this piece of new info?

Thanks guys!

 

[silverwex]

Come on guys?! Need help. Cheers

 

[Zephyrus]

The only thing that i see in there that stands out is, "shes not into relationships" of course she's not.... at least not until the right guy comes along.

Set up a date, a REAL date... ya know, just you and her. Not in a club. You may as well try, you don't have nothing to lose.

 

[silverwex]

Hmm... suppose i cud give that a try and if she backs out 'NEXT'!

Any other advice guys? Is she interested?

 

[Austin Allegro]

Bloody hell, I'd need a Venn Diagram to figure out all this stuff about Mary, Gemma, Amy, etc...

Forget about what they might be thinking and what they might be telling each other, man you will drive yourself mad doing that.

Just set up a date with ONE of them for now, if things don't work out then move on.

Probably best not to move onto anyone else in the Mary Gemma Amy 'Bermuda Triangle' though as once you've crashed and burned with one girl in a group the others often close ranks.

 

[silverwex]

Thanks but...

Thanks man, but im only after 'Gemma'

Basically what im trying to say is Amy was warned off me by Mary (Mary being Gemmas best mate) as she know im into Gemma.

What does this mean?

Thanks

 

[the_gunslinger]

Re: Thanks but...

Originally posted by silverwex
Thanks man, but im only after 'Gemma'

Basically what im trying to say is Amy was warned off me by Mary (Mary being Gemmas best mate) as she know im into Gemma.

What does this mean?

Thanks

Ah, the infamous "best mate" trap. had that sprung on me a couple of weeks back, stopped me havin a 3-some (with 2 7s), but what the hell?

BAsically, Mary is gonna be your biggest problem. You see, girls best friends are evil, spiteful little creatures. they go out of their way to cling to their best friend emotionally and stop you getting any where near her.

Im guessing Mary is single, and thus, relies on Gemma as a social float, in that she has no/ very few other mates and has invested a lot in the relationship with gemma, so she's not going to give it up without a fight.

The problem is going to be splitting them apart. I guarentee you that if you plan a date with Gemma and Mary finds out, she will either tag along, have you spied on or organise something else for them to do that night, so Gemma feels obligated to spend time with her. Failing that, she'll have a girly problem and Gemma will have to run round there and spend all that night with her. crap isnt it

SO what do you do. To be honest, its hard to get through that barrier, especially if that person seems out to get you. you said nothing about your relationship with mary, i dont find that odd, i take it from that you dont get on with her at all.

if she is single, what about hooking one of your AFC mates up with her. we all have one good looking, complete AFC mate. that way, you get her out of the way, Gemma sees relationships as a good thing as her best mate has one and thus in turn wants one (its herd mentality, in some repects, women really are like sheep ).

Failing that, the best bet your gonna have is to suggest a date one on one, if she brings mary, next her. any girl that brings another girl on a date isnt worth bothering with (i speak from experience). dont go to a club either, go bowling or rock climbing (this worked great for me the other day).

hope this helps, keep me posted.

 

[silverwex]

Thanks gunslinger but...

I dont think u guys are getting my drift here. Or maybe i didnt make myself clear. Either way, MARY warned AMY off me as Im interested in GEMMA. Which basically means MARY knows i like GEMMA and wants to get AMY outta the pic so that maybe GEMMA can have me?

Thats what im asking... Is this the case?

Oh and im good mates with MARY by the way.

 

[the_gunslinger]

Originally posted by silverwex
Thats what im asking... Is this the case?

To be honest, probably not. women are spiteful manipulative creatures by their very nature, theres probably some ul/alterior motive behind it.

If you read the book of woman, by some guy on the board here, it goes on about women seeing everything in relation to social status.

to my mind (and bare in mind im only awake cos some dumb fvck set off the fire alarms at my halls of residence, so im knackered), there are 3 possbile scenarios:

1: she actually is doing what you want her to do. this is the most unlikely of the scenarios as women rarely do something that doesnt benefit themselves forst and others second.

2: she wants you for herself, or is going to pretend to, to put gemma off you

3: she gets amy out of the way to warn her off you, then warns gemma off you.

either way, things aint great. as you can probably tell, i detest girls best friends with a passion (and probably is due to the fact that i missed out on a 3-some because of it ), but i would honestly say that you need to look at the situation, take a step back and ask yourself what she stands to gain from getting amy out of the way.

once you answer this, things will be clearer, which is then when you mentally re-frame the situation to just focus on you and gemma. it sounds vague, i know, but its really easy to do.