"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A strange fear has popped in my mind few months ago and it is causing me a lot of stress.

Few months back I had a dream where i was making out to a woman and suddenly she turned into a guy. i was totally freaked out.

since then i am having this strange fear of how i might be turning gay or something. i tried evaluating myself and i am totally straight. never had any gay feelings or anything of that sort before this.

somehow i cant let it shake off. i read on the internet that sexual orientation is determined at birth and cant change. but i am still scared ****. the more i try to forget it the more it keeps coming back

i read online about how not to fight those fears, face them etc. but its too difficult to let a scenario like this play in my mind. my mind has gone into checking and rechecking that i m straight during the day. sometimes gay thoughts pop in my mind (maybe cuz i m not trying to think of them) and cause immense disgust (i feel like throwing up) and anxiety.

has anyone faced a similar fear before? how did u overcome it. i know its irrational but cant seem to shake it off. should i go see a doctor or something?? should i just relax?

constructive feedback only please
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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my constructive feedback/prognosis is that you have blown the whole thing out of proportion. If you are not turned on by men and you have thoughts of fukin whenever you see really hot chics, then you are not gay.

I have had a dream that was similar to yours but worse (3rd base) but im as straight as a perfectly calibrated ruler. When I had the dream I was freaked out and decided not to tell anyone and just put it down to a temporary chemical imbalance in my brain while i was asleep.

Eventually i told my bro and he laughed. You have no control over your dreams and the best thing you could have done was chalk it up as a mistake by the dream creating gnome that lives in your head (we all have one). Needless to say I have never given my said dream a second thought and after that day you shouldn't have either.

Dreams are random and can range from being downright amazing to downright crazy. My last dream had me running away from two grizzly bears and a tiger so that should give you an example of how weird dreams can be. Could be caused by you having late night snacks or by you giving something excessive thought b4 bed (wet dreams are caused by thinking excessively about sex b4 bed most of the time).

You should have, after that day never given the dream a second thought. So do that right now. You know you aint gay so forget about the dream and focus on getting yourself the life you want. Put focus on more important life issues
 

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Thanks a lot YAboi. Your suggestion is correct. I will forget this whole episode and try to move on.
 

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Goldstar said:
Thanks a lot YAboi. Your suggestion is correct. I will forget this whole episode and try to move on.
yah man my dream was 10 times worse than yours in terms of graphic content but i just shrugged that sh1t off as soon as i woke up.



YAboi said:
Dreams are random and can range from being downright amazing to downright crazy. My last dream had me running away from two grizzly bears and a tiger so that should give you an example of how weird dreams can be. Could be caused by you having late night snacks or by you giving something excessive thought b4 bed (wet dreams are caused by thinking excessively about sex b4 bed most of the time).
whats so funny and ironic is that i ended up havin a wet dream last nite, lol! Have abstained for close to 21 days now so as you can imagine ive been pent up and still am.
 

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Jesus jumped up, what's wrong with you man. Hell no I've never had any dreams where a woman turned into a guy, that would be a nightmare
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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