Strange College Chick - Am I missing something, is this the 'chase'?

[MagickMan]

So I had this convo with a chick in class after she laughed at my clumsiness. We talked, shared interests, her eyes were gleaming. She mentioned she majored in one of my programs as well with a great big smile, then I looked towards the professor as he started talking again and the convo ended.

I said goodbye to her, saw her in the hallways, she opened the door for me, and left while I said 'hey thanks'. She didn't stop and converse, and had a neutral face going.

Saw her again next class, she came in late and 3 rows behind me, I got up to pack my stuff when the course ended and saw her stare at me out of the corner of her eyes with a demure face while pretending to use her laptop. I noticed that, shook my head and laughed. Now she's coming in late every class, sitting several rows directly behind me, and sometimes leaving the class early.

And when the prof messed with me, she was the first one to laugh. I don't know where she goes during the break, but she pops some gum in her mouth lol. (My guess is she has a bf)

I am a good looking guy, but I'm not being myself, and the way I said bye comes from my French mannerisms, and not the Anglophone ones she had, I don't know if it came off weird.

Haven't talked to her in a while, but I feel her presence.

 

[ArcBound]

Her sitting a couple rows behind can mean anything. Did you get her number, invite her out, do anything else with her? Chase won't happen by itself you have to make it happen.

 

[sighsigh]

What are you waiting for?

 

[MagickMan]

Hi guys, well I just talked to her, I didn't get her number, and I implied that I would talk to her next time by saying 'see you next class'. And she forced a smile while pretending to forget my name, after she corrected me for saying her name wrong earlier. Then there was that meeting in the hallway. And finally, she started sitting out of my preferred area.

She didn't sit beside me in the coming classes, so I haven't done anything to pursue the situation. What am I waiting for? So she's still fair game? I thought she was avoiding me with her behavior.
Though she may sit directly behind me, it's several rows now, must I go out of my way and show how much steps I have to take in order to chat with her another time? Quite awkward when you spot someone from afar.

 

[sighsigh]

Question: what was preventing you, during your last conversation where you "just talked to her," from ending your conversation with "so you seem pretty cool. We should hang out sometime. Give me your phone number."

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If she has a boyfriend, she'll tell you that. It's not your responsibility to know the story of her love life. There is no 'boyfriend ring' to check for.

 

[MagickMan]

Question: what was preventing you, during your last conversation where you "just talked to her," from ending your conversation with "so you seem pretty cool. We should hang out sometime. Give me your phone number."

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If she has a boyfriend, she'll tell you that. It's not your responsibility to know the story of her love life. There is no 'boyfriend ring.' to check for.

I thought I could make her a 'class friend' first and then when I have gained her trust, ask for her number later down the road, I thought it was rude to ask for digits right away.

Error in train of thought? You are right sighsigh.

What next? So this isn't 'the chase'?

 

[sighsigh]

I'd say if you have spent at least 5 minutes talking to her about laid-back stuff (not schoolwork) and she shows IOIs, her number is fair game.

On getting to know her: there is a point of diminishing returns. You wait too long to make a move (say, in order to be a "class friend") and her IL will drop steadily.

Next step: Initiate conversation => close phone number.

 

[Zarky]

No way to know for sure. Date more women.

 

[MagickMan]

Yeah, screw this oneitis crap, I'm a Boss, better behave like one. If she really wants me, she'll give me more IOIs. Declining interest? I barely know her, isn't that stuff for when you have the number?
Me and bros were thinking of doing something along the lines of simple pickup and learning from errors.
ALL Girls think I'm a playboy, might as well take advantage of that notion.