Strange Behaviour

[inzone50]

My girlfriend of 3 months put up a picture of her "male" friend and her drunk from when they(there was 4 of them) were hanging out on the weekend. He has his head on hers...

Anyway, what should my reaction to this be?

I asked her who he was and she told me, I played it of like it didn't bother me. But i'm pissed right now.

 

[inzone50]

Also last week she said she was wondering if my parents would like her when she met them. So that's a positive sign.

I don't get why she would put a pic of this guy and her up? Is she trying to make me jealous?

Also she said she hasn't told her ex about us because he is unstable. But he is on her msn and she puts this pic up. The only conclusion i can come up with is that her ex knows her friends and he knows that she isn't dating that guy.

See I don't know any of her friends.

 

[djSlvt]

She is knocking off your self confidence, hitting your balls. She is testing you if you're a man she wants to be with.


You should stop giving a damn about that and anything else she throws at you. Learn the game and play it. She's just a chick, who cares what she does. There are millions more like her.


Start talking to other women.

 

[inzone50]

She is knocking off your self confidence, hitting your balls. She is testing you if you're a man she wants to be with.


You should stop giving a damn about that and anything else she throws at you. Learn the game and play it. She's just a chick, who cares what she does. There are millions more like her.


Start talking to other women.

So i'm doing the right thing by not showing that it bothers me?

 

[djSlvt]

NO. It should not bother you, i.e this feeling inside of you should be genuine. When you fake that it don't bothers you, you're not at peace. She can get a reading on you if something's off, you can't fake.


Adopt an attitude:

She is with you because you're HOT!!!!!! and are a REAL good catch. If she to stay with you, she should respect you, and be loyal to you. If she chooses to cheat, it is her choice, and her loss. It has nothing to do with you.


THUS, you genuinely don't give a crap about what she does. Because you know you're good, and she's with you because you're that good. And in other words, don't allow the insecurity question whether you are good or not, becuase you know that you are good.



This also means, do not concentrate on keeping one girl, or manipulating her. Concentrate on improving yourself, and your game.

 

[inzone50]

I meant more of my actions...

I'm not really pissed, just more curious if she is trying to get me jealous.

Should i try to make her jealous in return, like have female friends call me and have her see it.

 

[djSlvt]

You have 3 brains.


Reptilian, mamalian, and rational.


Your reflex to get back at her is coming from reptilian brain. Use your rational brain. Why is she doing this to you?


Why is she doing this to you?

A) She is testing you.

B) She is getting you worked up so you go nutz over her.


Now think what you should be doing. In A), pass her test, and in B) don't go nutz over her. Getting back at her is like, what you trying to accomplish, fail her test, or what?



Forget about her, just live as you used to. Here somewhere is DJ Bible link, go and read it, and study it until you become a pimp, and are good with women. Luck.

 

[squirrels]

My girlfriend of 3 months put up a picture of her "male" friend and her drunk from when they(there was 4 of them) were hanging out on the weekend. He has his head on hers...

Anyway, what should my reaction to this be?

I asked her who he was and she told me, I played it of like it didn't bother me. But i'm pissed right now.

"Put up" a picture?

Get off of Myspace and go outside. :kick:

 

[inzone50]

"Put up" a picture?

Get off of Myspace and go outside. :kick:

We talk on msn, she is my g/f...

 

[Poonani Maker]

I'd go get another gf. This behavior by her is unacceptable. You must lay down the line, sooner rather than later. If you or she have brought up this issue, it's time for you to lay down the line and not be neutral on this. This is why spinning plates is so important. Let her know that you have plenty of options, and that you will bail if she crosses Your line. And fvck the ex. If he's unstable, then welcome him into your arena if he wants to die. I can be every bit as unstable as any one of them, but not over a b1tch. Never fight over a b1tch, but protect yourself. He's weaker if he's coming at you over a b1tch. That's just weak, man.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Jeez, the girl isn't allowed to have pictures taken with guy friends? What else isn't she allowed to do? I feel bad for her for having to put up with such a controlling, high-strung boyfriend.

Think nothing of the picture. If it bothers you that much, tell her.

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

Jeez, the girl isn't allowed to have pictures taken with guy friends? What else isn't she allowed to do? I feel bad for her for having to put up with such a controlling, high-strung boyfriend.

Think nothing of the picture. If it bothers you that much, tell her.

I agree. She had a life prior to meeting you, and she probably enjoyed it. As such, she wants a reminder of it here and there. She's your gf of 3 months, not wife of 3 years.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

We talk on msn, she is my g/f...

her "ex" might be thinking the exact same thing

 

[inzone50]

her "ex" might be thinking the exact same thing

nah, they def broke up i know that.

 

[theunflushables]

Yeah man, its pretty dumb to be getting worked up about it. I mean who knows, this guy in the picture could be gay. It could be her friend since childhood who she sees as a brother. Blow it off.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

nah, they def broke up i know that.

in that case, why worry? She might view him as an important part of her past, good memories along with bad, no big deal.