Straight up dump her or just go NC? Advice please.

[shizz702]

Ok so I'm pretty much at my wit's end with this one and want to get a point across with her but am still not sure how I'm going to proceed.

Last 2 times we were supposed to meet up and she has flaked on both. First over her wisdom teeth being in pain, this time claiming she is sick.

First time alternative plans were offered, this time no go.

Interest level was just recently seemingly high as while she was out of town for xmas with her family she was blowing my phone up with texts, and sending me sexy pics and saying how she can't wait to see me. Now all of a sudden she is distant, and not initiating contact.

She also said she has an xmas gift for me.

But the thing that is pissing me off is even with our plans broken off for tonight she is updating her facebook talking about how she just met with her best friend.

So I have already decided I want to next her, but am wondering if I should just go NC and see if she comes crawling back, or if I should just be upfront and tell her I'm done as she has mentioned in the past she has never been dumped and she is one of those types on a pedestal thinking she has guys lining ujp for her.

How would you guys handles this?

For the record I went ahead and got myself a good workout in and made plans for Friday night with another plate, I'm not gonna let piddly sh1t like this f<ck with me.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

What's the difference between going NC or dumping her?

The only thing I can see is, if you "dump" her, then you get the emotional satisfaction of giving her a piece of your mind.

Just go No Contact. Let her wonder about what you're doing and why you're gone. Telling her the rationale behind it doesn't benefit you in any way....other than temporary emotional satisfaction

 

[shizz702]

What's the difference between going NC or dumping her?

The only thing I can see is, if you "dump" her, then you get the emotional satisfaction of giving her a piece of your mind.

Just go No Contact. Let her wonder about what you're doing and why you're gone. Telling her the rationale behind it doesn't benefit you in any way....other than temporary emotional satisfaction

That's what I'm getting at and you hit the nail on the head, I'm leaning towards that satisfaction, but I also don't want to be the one to get dumped either as I feel that may be a possibility as well. Then again I could just be over analyzing this.

I suppose if I just go NC at least there is that possibility she may come crawling back wondering why and what's going on.

Do you think I should delete her off FB or just leave everything alone for right now and be nonchalant?

 

[st_99]

Is this a girl you just went on a few dates with or what?

But regardless, no need to get dramatic about it (i've done that, its useless). Just chill back, stop caring, hit on other girls and treat this one as a hobby. No need to torch it. Just get your negative emotions out of it bro, thats all you can do.

Chill out, toy with her, your the prize. If she walks, she walks. Whatever.

oh, and in addition, I know you want to get a point across but the best way you can do that is by simply not
giving a sh!t. That actually is pretty much the only way.

 

[shizz702]

Is this a girl you just went on a few dates with or what?

But regardless, no need to get dramatic about it (i've done that, its useless). Just chill back, stop caring, hit on other girls and treat this one as a hobby. No need to torch it. Just get your negative emotions out of it bro, thats all you can do.

Chill out, toy with her, your the prize. If she walks, she walks. Whatever.

oh, and in addition, I know you want to get a point across but the best way you can do that is by simply not
giving a sh!t. That actually is pretty much the only way.

Yea nothing major, been going out now for a month and a half.

I don't care and am not afraid to walk, was just weighing my options on how to go about proceeding. For sure, you are right the drama is useless, which is why I haven't even bothered to contact her or call her out on any of this.

She texted me saying "I've been so sick "

And I just responded saying "ok"

and haven't bothered to contact her since and don't plan on it.

Funny now IL can just drop at an instant like that, the other night she texted me a sexy pic saying "a kiss for you" and now out of nowhere she is just all distant.

Whatever don't care, I've stopped caring about sh!t like this and which is why spinning plates is the only solution!

 

[pdx1138]

excellent work Shizz...keep it up!

 

[EFFORT]

Yea nothing major, been going out now for a month and a half.

I don't care and am not afraid to walk, was just weighing my options on how to go about proceeding. For sure, you are right the drama is useless, which is why I haven't even bothered to contact her or call her out on any of this.

She texted me saying "I've been so sick "

And I just responded saying "ok"

and haven't bothered to contact her since and don't plan on it.

Funny now IL can just drop at an instant like that, the other night she texted me a sexy pic saying "a kiss for you" and now out of nowhere she is just all distant.

Whatever don't care, I've stopped caring about sh!t like this and which is why spinning plates is the only solution!

Hey Shizz... like the other guys said don't take it personal. Nothing really even happened and her flakes are probably legit. I'd say just proceed as normal with her but if your feeling oneitisy then go NC for your well being.

Stay busy with career, friends, other plates, hobbies. Consider deleting/deactivating facebook too.

 

[shizz702]

Hey Shizz... like the other guys said don't take it personal. Nothing really even happened and her flakes are probably legit. I'd say just proceed as normal with her but if your feeling oneitisy then go NC for your well being.

Stay busy with career, friends, other plates, hobbies. Consider deleting/deactivating facebook too.

Solid advice and pretty much what I plan on doing.

 

[shizz702]

Lol.

She ended up calling me up all apologetic (actually did sound sick), and I told her I wasn't tripping.

But things ended on a bad note cause I told her it's not a big deal I'm just gonna go hang with my friends then, and prior to that she was telling me how overwhelmed she is with this and that, and all her friends that are making plans with her.

And then she got sh!tty and she was like well I'm just letting you know this is how it is with me, and I have a life, and my friends, and whatever you do tonight I hope you have fun. Bye.

Whatever. I didn't act offended by her cancelling or anything.

Weird chick.

Oh well looking forward to checking out an exhibition Friday night with another plate.