Straight to 2nd Date?

[kingxxxman]

In college, met a cute girl, and had a first coffee date today. Should I ask for a dinner/2nd date this weekend or should I ask her to party this weekend or see her in another setting?

 

[narcissist]

does it matter? the place of the date in my personal opinion is irrelevant.

DOES SHE HAVE ATTRACTION/HIGH INTEREST LEVEL?

if yes, then who cares where you take her. The only time the place you take her is relevant is if you take her to a a garbage dump, or a homeless shelter. That would be one way to fxck it up. but dinner or coffee, she isnt going to be like "oh dinner? fxck this guy im definitely not giving him the pvssy now, he should have taken me to get coffee, then i would be soaking wet"

the more thought you put into this, the easier it is to **** it up. You are over analyzing.

just have fun bruh, GO WHERE YOU WANT TO GO.

good luck mate.

 

[kingxxxman]

What would you say is a good way to gauge attraction/high interest level?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Glad to hear the first date went... well, I don't know if it went "well" or not since you didn't really elaborate. But she showed up so... yaaaaaay! :cheer:

Now, before you completely screw this thing up, a few things:

1. Today is Wednesday. So trying to see her again on Friday or Saturday is NOT going to help you. Weekend dates shouldn't even be a thought in your head when you first start going out with a girl - subconsciously, those days are reserved for when you're a couple and she knows it. You ask her out on those days too soon and she'll start flaking on you.

2. You're in college - dinner/movies are ok for dates, but try to do something a bit more fun if you can. If you're in a traditional college town there should be tons of things to do in your area; if you're not in one of those towns, at least try to make "traditional" dates interest - like dinner at a Hibachi grill or a drive in movie.

3. NEVER ASK A GIRL YOU JUST MET TO GO TO A PARTY WITH YOU. That's something you would do if you were trying to be her friend; if you're trying to date her you take her out on actual DATES. You also don't take her places this early on where your friends will be - she's not completely sold on you yet (that's what the dates are for), so her being distracted or becoming interested in someone else she sees at these parties is very possible. Plus, if your friends end up being jerks (even though you may not see them this way) or acting weird, she may associate their behavior with how you REALLY act when she's not around. Wait til she's sold on you to take her to these types of things.

4. To answer your "gauging attraction" question:
- If she says "yes" to you every time she asks you out, she's attracted
- If she initiates touching (shoulder, arm, waist, etc.), she's attracted
- If she stares at you for more than 5 seconds when you're talking to her, she's attracted
- If you attempt to go 4 days without calling/texting her and SHE initiates a message/call to you, she's attracted
- If she asks you "so, are you seeing anyone else?", she's attracted
- If, at the end of the 2nd date, you go in for the kiss and she kisses you back, she's attracted

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[kingxxxman]

Glad to hear the first date went... well, I don't know if it went "well" or not since you didn't really elaborate. But she showed up so... yaaaaaay! :cheer:

Now, before you completely screw this thing up, a few things:

1. Today is Wednesday. So trying to see her again on Friday or Saturday is NOT going to help you. Weekend dates shouldn't even be a thought in your head when you first start going out with a girl - subconsciously, those days are reserved for when you're a couple and she knows it. You ask her out on those days too soon and she'll start flaking on you.

2. You're in college - dinner/movies are ok for dates, but try to do something a bit more fun if you can. If you're in a traditional college town there should be tons of things to do in your area; if you're not in one of those towns, at least try to make "traditional" dates interest - like dinner at a Hibachi grill or a drive in movie.

3. NEVER ASK A GIRL YOU JUST MET TO GO TO A PARTY WITH YOU. That's something you would do if you were trying to be her friend; if you're trying to date her you take her out on actual DATES. You also don't take her places this early on where your friends will be - she's not completely sold on you yet (that's what the dates are for), so her being distracted or becoming interested in someone else she sees at these parties is very possible. Plus, if your friends end up being jerks (even though you may not see them this way) or acting weird, she may associate their behavior with how you REALLY act when she's not around. Wait til she's sold on you to take her to these types of things.

4. To answer your "gauging attraction" question:
- If she says "yes" to you every time she asks you out, she's attracted
- If she initiates touching (shoulder, arm, waist, etc.), she's attracted
- If she stares at you for more than 5 seconds when you're talking to her, she's attracted
- If you attempt to go 4 days without calling/texting her and SHE initiates a message/call to you, she's attracted
- If she asks you "so, are you seeing anyone else?", she's attracted
- If, at the end of the 2nd date, you go in for the kiss and she kisses you back, she's attracted

If you need any more help, click on the link below and check out some of my podcast!

Holy crap. That's some great advice. Should I try to avoid contact for 4 days? or try to set something up for next week? I kind of live in a college town but there's not too much to do, not even a park. What would you suggest? Just dinner, we have no theater

 

[Harry Wilmington]

If you weren't in school I'd say avoid her, but realistically you'll probably run into her regularly, if not daily. So, in this instance we're not talking about not running into her (don't necessarily seek her out, but if you see her be cordial to her and talk to her - just don't make it too long); we're talking about the actual length of time between when you ask her out. You can see her in passing and not ask her out, but I have found the most effective way to build up interest in a girl is to make her wonder when you're going to ask her out again. So, you take her out, show her a good time, then wait 4 days or longer before asking her out for the second date. (Note: someone is going to say to you, "but you have to ask her out again soon or she'll forget about you!" Not true - women go on so many bad dates that when they go on one with someone they end up liking, they can't forget about how that person made them feel. 4 days isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things.)

So like I said before: today is Wednesday. Ideally, you'd wait til Sunday or Monday to ask her out for Tuesday or Thursday (try not to take her out on the same day every week - you end up looking predictable, which eventually equals BORING in her mind). Find a restaurant in your town that has some kind of interesting twist to it if you can; or, you can do something active, like mini golf or bowling. Plus, I'd hope there would be things on campus you could get into together; if not, just go with the suggestions mentioned above. Hope this helps!

 

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