"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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straight single girls who say they don't want a boyfriend?

Eternal_water

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What is your opinion on (straight) girls who have been single for ages and who tell people they don't want a boyfriend or anything to do with guys?

I know just one such girl who gives me IOI's so thats a little tricky to figure out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She's holding out for a guy she's in love with.
 

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closet lesbian?
super prude?
secret boyfriend?
asexual(in theory it's a real thing)?
unable to acquire man but pretending they don't want one instead?

pick one, don't waste your time on girls like that though, not unless you think you can change their mind and want to waste time trying(note: only applies if they specifically say they don't want a BF, not if they just don't have one and haven't had one for a while).
 

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Either lesbian or waiting for the prince of wales to sweep her off her feet
 

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Woman: "I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now."

What she really says... "I dont want to be with you!"

Reason? Low Interest level! Or even better, the Friend Zone!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She could be fvcking 8-9 guys still. Just cause she doesn't have a bf doesn't mean she's celibate.
 

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They just want to have fun (sex alcohol and parties). They're not ready to settle down.
 

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Eternal_water said:
What is your opinion on (straight) girls who have been single for ages and who tell people they don't want a boyfriend or anything to do with guys?

I know just one such girl who gives me IOI's so thats a little tricky to figure out.
It mean she dont want to do any thing with YOU.

some women prefer FWB especially if they don't need any financial support . may be wait until they get expired so they start looking for that "one" .
 

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the rest of the posts in this thread reminded me, my first post only applies if she refrains from guys, if she doesn't but still says she doesn't want a BF it's either:
SeymourCake said:
They just want to have fun (sex alcohol and parties). They're not ready to settle down.
skinnyguy said:
She could be fvcking 8-9 guys still. Just cause she doesn't have a bf doesn't mean she's celibate.
Danger said:
Riding the carousel unless she meets "Mr Big".
or

evan12 said:
It mean she dont want to do any thing with YOU.
Krueg said:
Woman: "I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now."

What she really says... "I dont want to be with you!"

Reason? Low Interest level! Or even better, the Friend Zone!
Danger said:
Or in w0manese speak, she thinks she can do better than settling with you.
or finally

Dhoulmagus said:
waiting for the prince of wales to sweep her off her feet
seems like there is no possible way this could be a good thing.
 

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Almost all attractive girls I've known who stayed single did so because they were extremely picky. The majority of them admitted it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Krueg said:
Woman: "I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now."

What she really says... "I dont want to be with you!"

Reason? Low Interest level! Or even better, the Friend Zone!

^^^^^ thats all there is to it really
 

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straight single girls who say they don't want a boyfriend?

She is lying to herself. Her emotions will take over her if she met the "right" (I don't like that word in this occasion lol) person.
 

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Reading through the comments I should add that she has never actually said that to me, I just happen to have heard her say it to others.
 

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Eternal_water said:
What is your opinion on (straight) girls who have been single for ages and who tell people they don't want a boyfriend or anything to do with guys?

I know just one such girl who gives me IOI's so thats a little tricky to figure out.
Usually it means they don't want you as a boyfriend ..... ;(
 

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Easy, she's rejecting you. She's holding out for a better man and doesn't want you as a boyfriend.

She has low to no interest in you.

Case closed.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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As the majority says: "She has low to no interest in you" basically.

Second, run like hell from these unbanged crazy biznitches! They have no idea what they want.
 
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