"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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STR8UP's Guide to getting Rich

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Jayer
This looks like a really long post. Before I start to read it, Is Str8up himself wealthy?
Along others like I, those who think generally on the same term, I have to ask you this - what exactly is wealth?
 

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yeah but I read one of his posts somewhere and it said he was on his way to getting there. It made it sound like right now he had debt, but this year he would make money.


Do you know if he's made a million dollars yet for sure?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Jayer
yeah but I read one of his posts somewhere and it said he was on his way to getting there. It made it sound like right now he had debt, but this year he would make money.


Do you know if he's made a million dollars yet for sure?

He stopped posting because he's too busy.

To become wealthy is actually very taxing on your social life.

I am not sure if he's "there" yet but I do know that the debt he has, is actually good debt. Unlike most people, Str8up doesn't seem like the kind of person to overspend and not keep a budget or doesn't know how to read a financial statement.
 

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I once met the guy. At the time, he did have a place of residence in a high-demand, lofty part of town. And like people who actually do have money, compared to the countless who try to appear as though they have money, if you met him you’d never know it.
 

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Originally posted by Deep Dish
I once met the guy. At the time, he did have a place of residence in a high-demand, lofty part of town. And like people who actually do have money, compared to the countless who try to appear as though they have money, if you met him you’d never know it.
I'd love to meet him and talk with him one-on-one. Where is he from, anyway?
 

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I'd love to meet him and talk with him one-on-one. Where is he from, anyway?
I'm going to assume Florida.
 

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I'd love to meet him and talk with him one-on-one. Where is he from, anyway?
I’m not quite sure. From what was my impression of him and from what details about him I vaguely remember (I had met him two years ago), I would venture to guess Florida.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey Deep Dish, good to see you are still around.

So you want to know if I am wealthy....

What is wealth? To me it's undefinable, just like happiness.

Am I a millionaire? I own millions of dollars worth of real estate, but it isn't owned outright. Anyone who knows wealth knows that the only way to make your money grow quickly is to borrow to buy assets. If you can manage to borrow a million you can easily make a million.

Money (actually net worth, control of assets) is simply a tool that allows me to live the kind of life I want to live. I'm not trying to amass bajillions of dollars, all I care about is being able to live the life I want to live and not having to worry about money.

To me, wealth is not only measured in dollars or assets, but equally as important, time. All the money in the world wouldn't do a thing for me if I had to slave all year to get it. I am finally at the point where I only work a few hours per week, and I can pretty much travel when and where I wish. Although I didn't realize it until I was finally in that position, you just can't put a price on that kind of freedom.

If you don't read the whole thread, at least read the books I mentioned, since that is why I wrote it in the first place.
 

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*Wanna be swimming in money when you're older? Save 20% of every dollar you make, put it in the bank if you want to play it safe, or put it into Schwab or Vanguard for some play.

*Wanna become wealthy beyond belief by making short term goals? Read my other posts.
 
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