Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
God, you should all save this thread and read it on bad days! He is right all the way here! Some of you guys hang onto whatever you can that is wrong with your LOOKS, and blame you lack of game on that!STR8UP said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well if this is the case, then your sosuave women trolls are not bad on the eyes!ThunderMaverick said:
Where's your picture, missy!?iqqi said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haha....I've been called many things but i don't think I've ever been called "funny looking". I warned you that I don't take good pics.iqqi said:I totally would have thought STR8UP was alot hotter than he is. I think he looks funny, and like he can't keep his eyes open in any pic!
joekerr31 said:
You do look pretty tossed in most of these photos Str8up.Colossus said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well, most of them ARE "party" pics!Mr.Positive said:You do look pretty tossed in most of these photos Str8up.
Cool photos though, props for sharing. BTW, something about IMG1568 really grabs me, nice nice pic.
I guess the lesson that we ALL can take from this is that looks are subjective. No offense Joekerr but I have always found Courtney Cox REPULSIVE. But objectively, I've dated women who are far "homelier" than her. And by "homelier" I mean not pretty. Seriously. But they were more attractive to me than Courtney Cox is.joekerr31 said:
Oh come on. How pretty can a 40 something year old American woman be? Combine that with her personality, that of a typical American b*tch, makes her repulsive.ThunderMaverick said:
Here is a "40 something year old American woman." She is 41 now actually.MrLuvr said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
) but really he looks like a party guy in his mid-twenties. When I was in my mid-twenties everyone always told me I looked a lot older. I can only imagine what they think now! However, like I said, everyone on this thread has totally differing opinions so that to me is PROOF that looks are subjective (and attraction is too).There's no real topic here. Just thought I would put some pics up for the hell of it. And in case anyone was wondering....I didn't do it to get myself or the women "rated" although I could care less.Ever onward said:
Thanks. It seems like everyone pictured something different, but I am who I am. I'm just thankful that I have been able to maintain a "younger" look.You said that Str8up looks funny or something like that. I think he looks pretty good (not in a gay way
When I was younger people thought I was older too. I think it was more my personality than anything, but it's nice to be mistaken for being in your 20's when you are rolling up on 36. At least half of those chicks in the pictures are 21-26. Makes it easier to get along with the younger ones when you don't look TOO old.
For men it is. Women....not so much.
Agreediqqi said:
Oh I'd probably do her. I'm a guy and us guys do chicks given the chance. But personally I look and her and I'm repelled. Maybe it's her personality. Dunno. I'm a strange guy.iqqi said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
