i messed up last night, but met my gf during the process, not cheating or being abusive, will going NC now to try to save some face. pretty much i got an email from a mutual friend yesterday that said that my gf of the past 9 months has an ex who was telling everyone they are back on and talking. yesterday after she dodged my calls the email started to ride on me. so me, being my ADHD self wanted some visual proof. i live 10 blocks away..hopped in cab and had planned on going over just to see if her lights were on or off...not to stop. when we were almost there i got out of the cab and realized how stupid it was and how weak i was being. i also realized that if i let this person get this into my emotions it was not a good thing. i got out and started walking home. well my phone rings and it was her. i thought "great she's been asleep, i worried for nothing". well it was her saying "where are you, you just walked by my house...i saw you". there was no getting out of it. i have never been jealous, questioned her or anything. i just had to find out for myself and i knew if i asked her a possible fight was brewing.
we talked and she asked why i did that b/c it was so out of character. i tell her about the email and of course she wants to know where it came from. i would not tell. she then starts blasting me about having mental problems so then i ask "how did you see me?" she said "i was coming from a friend's house". i said "yeah, a friend just like me right?" and she says "i was having chinese with my ex and some friendly conversation". so the conversation went on and i told her bye and that this was the funniest and best way a relationship has ever ended for me. it was so weird that 2 people in the wrong actually ran into each other at 2am. i have deleted all of her contact info. it was a good awakening call for me. i'm not a stalker and just wanted some clarification on the idea that it was going on...sure enough it was.
i'm not like this and she is bipolar w/o medication....when i go NC will my weak ass be able to save any face?
we talked and she asked why i did that b/c it was so out of character. i tell her about the email and of course she wants to know where it came from. i would not tell. she then starts blasting me about having mental problems so then i ask "how did you see me?" she said "i was coming from a friend's house". i said "yeah, a friend just like me right?" and she says "i was having chinese with my ex and some friendly conversation". so the conversation went on and i told her bye and that this was the funniest and best way a relationship has ever ended for me. it was so weird that 2 people in the wrong actually ran into each other at 2am. i have deleted all of her contact info. it was a good awakening call for me. i'm not a stalker and just wanted some clarification on the idea that it was going on...sure enough it was.
i'm not like this and she is bipolar w/o medication....when i go NC will my weak ass be able to save any face?