"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stories of Disrespect

jhonny9546

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You often talk about Italy like it's a country full of crazy people.
But do you really want to understand what men go through here, what happens daily?
I'd love to share situations where women show disrespect and how men respond, plus what should have been done.
This wouldn't just help us reflect; it would also prepare us to act better next time.

Anyone could contribute to this!


#1 Event
At work. The boss’s wife walks in without greeting anyone. She storms into his office.
Wife: “I’ve been waiting over 10 minutes! What are you doing?”
Boss: “I’m working?”
Wife: “Come on, let’s go, we’re late!”
Boss (muttering while following her): “Working? Work? lalala…”

Thoughts
We don’t know if he’ll confront her later, but she clearly disrespected him in front of his team.
He accepted it. What would you have done?
Personally, I would’ve gone with her, then understood if she was upset with me or just in a general angry mood.
If it’s just the delay and she acted like that? I’d end the relationship.
If she was in upset mood, I’d still make it clear: never act like that again. If she can’t control herself, the relationship can’t work.
A man should never accept that kind of behavior from a woman.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BaronOfHair

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You often talk about Italy like it's a country full of crazy people.
But do you really want to understand what men go through here, what happens daily?
No. We've spent the past decade listening to EVERY demographic imaginable(men include)natter on at length about how sh-tty their lives are. Slowly but surely, we're regaining our appetite for inquiries such as:

"What do we do to rectify (insert gripe of choice)?"

In the case of the example you gave: A fella who finds himself in such straits is wise to simply kick that b-tch to the curb, then never look back. If current divorce laws are obstructing his attempts to do as much... Well, it sounds like we need to start agitating politically to amend those laws

Not easy to do, I admit, nonetheless the way forward is simple
 

jhonny9546

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Not easy to do, I admit, nonetheless the way forward is simple
This was more of a "chronicle of real-life events" post.
But I really appreciate your comment and share your perspective.
Even if for us men, it means starting over again... every time.
 

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Even if for us men, it means starting over again... every time.
A hallmark of psychological maturity is making peace with the fact that much of life is:


A cycle of things bottoming out, starring over again after this transpires, riding high for awhile, before things bottom out once more, thus compelling us to start over yet again
 

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I don't think this is any serious example of disrespect. When two people have been together for so long, this is common stuff.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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clearly the problem is the boss. muttering..... the man clearly has no or not much self respect and she copies that. its likely worse for him in private. likely been like that for him for years. he is complaining while submitting.
 
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