"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stopping trying to impress her!

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Whilst on this forum, I have been noticing a reoccurring theme in many of the threads here. This is “How do I impress her”.
(I have noticed a few others but I’ll stick to this as I feel it is the most important)

If we are all Don Juan then we should not have to impress anyone, they should impress us!

However this mindset of they should impress us seem to be a hard one for many Don Juans to grasp.
Why is this?

Any answers…….?

Well….there is two reasons I can think of.

One is that, change seems to be difficult for many individual. The human mind likes routine and dislikes change. This dislike for change prevents them bettering themselves.

The key to overcoming this is simply self determination and motivation.

The other reason is that they don’t see any value in themselves. Therefore they must prove themselves worthy of her love. Such a mindset is poison to anyone.

If you don’t see any value in yourself, why would anyone else?

Why would she (or anyone for that many) want to dedicate their time for you?

Well, do not fear if this is you, as there is a way to rid yourself of such a destructive mindset.
That is to become the great catch. As the great catch you are so god damn amazing that you no longer need to impress that one amazing girl you were chasing for years, rather she needs to impress you as now you have many amazing girls after you.

Check “Kill that desperation” by Pook for more information on becoming the great catch

“Hold on one sec, I have heard this before. Why are you repeating what has already been mentioned to us many times before?” a Don Juan shouts out

Why…..Because I feel that this message should be repeated many times until everyone understand just how important it is to not only getting women but to enjoying life itself.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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brilliant. i believe most of us are all works-in-progress here. its hard, but im sure all of us will get there soon! :)
 

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Neg said:
If you don’t see any value in yourself, why would anyone else?

Why would she (or anyone for that many) want to dedicate their time for you?

This is the big one for me. I've used to value myself at one time, but wasn't even aware I was doing it. Now that am trying to build value in myself (via goals, etc.), I'm having a hard a time as ever. It's clear that girls don't value me sometimes because I'm never happy with myself, no matter how high up the ladder I get or how fast I improve myself.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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