Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Imagine each cigarette you put to your lips is a thin, white penis.Dodgeball said:Hard task for me, im a heavy smoker,
but this is a 5 week plan
Week 1: 5 smokes a day
Week 2: 4 smokes a day and so on
You think this is a good way of doing this?
Lmao!KarmaSutra said:Imagine each cigarette you put to your lips is a thin, white penis.
Cold turkey anyone?![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You're trying to have your cake and eat it too...not going to happen. There's no way you're getting out of this addiction without willpower. If you don't have a true desire then you shouldn't even bother trying. If you really think there's an easy way out go get the patch or some gum...whatever, it's all the same. Those companies will love your money- after all they cater to weak-minded people who think they can buy their way out of their situation.Dodgeball said:Lmao!
i would go cold turkey but id rather ween myself off it not to feel the full effects of the withdrawels...
This is extremely sound advice. Good job brother.RedPill said:RedPill's (I quit about 18 months ago) stop smoking program:
You need to do it as you should do any other task in life that requires serious effort - BALLS OUT. As it applies to smoking, that means smoking your last one, not buying more, not bumming them, not hanging out in smokers circles, not carrying money or a credit card with you, and not drinking alcohol until the desire is dead. Not only must desire be dead but the thought of smoking must gross you out. Remove all temptations. It ought to take a few weeks to kill the desire.
But wait! We're not finished yet. We're just getting started. Start running. Start doing windsprints. Do them every day. Get your time in the mile under 6 minutes. Make your lungs burn, and spit up the nasty green mucus wads which are your body cleaning out the coating of tar from your membranes. You will feel cravings for endorphins. You will beg for mercy. You will puke after your first few runs. You will collapse in pain after sprinting and think "why did I do this to myself?"
You will look for another compulsive behavior to replace that wonderful 7 minutes when you used to light up. Maybe it's eating. Maybe it's masturbating. Maybe it's chewing gum. The psychological addiction is far worse than the chemical addiction. You are cured as soon as you have successfully rid yourself of the bad habit of complusive behaviors. In your case the compulsive behavior manifests itself in the form of smoking. But watch out! The compulsion bug will try to change hats on you. Kill it with discipline. Kill it with willpower. Keep your eye on the prize of having slayed the beast of desire.
It always takes balls to successfully re-engineer your psychology. You must be your own drill instructor. Don't waste your time/money with all the gimmicks and nicotine replacements. Forget "cutting back," that's the way of the pvssy. Don't be a pvssy. Good luck, and let us know how it goes!
I forgot to say what RedPill mentioned, which is to substitute smoking for sprinting (or whatever cardio you like doing). I found quitting to be much easier from the adrenaline buzz; it definitely helped take my mind off it...you still have to contend with the rest of the day, though. I sense in your posts you still do not have a true desire to quit just yet. At least you're starting to think about it(even if it is just passing interest).KarmaSutra said:This is extremely sound advice. Good job brother.
Although, If you really wanna quit, right now, do as I suggested earlier and willfully imagine each new cig as a c0ck. If you smoke it you're gay.
Not that there's anything wrong with that . . .
Yeah, and how many people do you know quit by weaning themselves off it? That 5hit continuously failed for me.i would go cold turkey but id rather ween myself off it not to feel the full effects of the withdrawels...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.