This is one of the biggest reasons you guys are getting flakes. You can't chat with a women for 2 minutes in a bar/club and then have 72 hours go by and expect something to happen. Too much time has passed. The whole point here is to move things along swiftly. Keep her interest level high should be your number one priority. By waiting 3 days, you're KILLING whatever momentum you've established.
When it comes to the bar scene, I try to sleep with them that night. Some quick flirty banter, I go for the number and jet off to a different spot. Later in the night I'll text her with "Hey cutie, let's meet up for a drink at xyz." I send this text maybe 2 or 3 hours after our first interaction.
If she meets up with me again that night, I'll keep it playful and very flirty, kiss her on the neck, etc. Now, even if she doesn't sleep with me that night, I've done something very important: Established a connection by getting her to meet up with me a second time. This is huge. I'm not some random guy anymore. I met her, got the digits, met up with her again, kissed her on the neck, etc. What I'm doing is adding layers which in the process is establishing a CONNECTION with a girl which is crucial. Now when I say connection, I mean the girl feels comfortable around your presence and you've differentiated yourself from the other guys. What I'm doing isn't necessarily racing to have sex with the girl, but I'm racing to ensure that connection which is what you need to sleep with her. A lot of guys seem to forget this.
You can't just get the digits and hope half a week later she's going to be receptive. Fluidity is very important. Bar/club scene I do this:
First approach ---> Digits ---> Leave to different bar ---> Text girl ---> Meet up for another drink ---> CONNECTION.
Most guys fail because they do this:
First approach ---> Digits ---> {DAY 1 GOES BY} ---> {DAY 2 GOES BY} ---> {DAY 3 GOES BY} ---> Text ---> No response, connection lost.
If you are not able to meet up with her that night; go into your phone, pull her number up... and delete it.
When it comes to the bar scene, I try to sleep with them that night. Some quick flirty banter, I go for the number and jet off to a different spot. Later in the night I'll text her with "Hey cutie, let's meet up for a drink at xyz." I send this text maybe 2 or 3 hours after our first interaction.
If she meets up with me again that night, I'll keep it playful and very flirty, kiss her on the neck, etc. Now, even if she doesn't sleep with me that night, I've done something very important: Established a connection by getting her to meet up with me a second time. This is huge. I'm not some random guy anymore. I met her, got the digits, met up with her again, kissed her on the neck, etc. What I'm doing is adding layers which in the process is establishing a CONNECTION with a girl which is crucial. Now when I say connection, I mean the girl feels comfortable around your presence and you've differentiated yourself from the other guys. What I'm doing isn't necessarily racing to have sex with the girl, but I'm racing to ensure that connection which is what you need to sleep with her. A lot of guys seem to forget this.
You can't just get the digits and hope half a week later she's going to be receptive. Fluidity is very important. Bar/club scene I do this:
First approach ---> Digits ---> Leave to different bar ---> Text girl ---> Meet up for another drink ---> CONNECTION.
Most guys fail because they do this:
First approach ---> Digits ---> {DAY 1 GOES BY} ---> {DAY 2 GOES BY} ---> {DAY 3 GOES BY} ---> Text ---> No response, connection lost.
If you are not able to meet up with her that night; go into your phone, pull her number up... and delete it.