DJBen
Master Don Juan
I've seen a lot of 'For some reason I just cant get out and meet close guy friends!' posts, so I think it's time to clear something up.
For the most part, men live this life alone. Friends come and go - you get a group of people you 'know' from some place, and then maybe one or two that you consider actual friends. So why is this?
Well it's time you realised that it's not about understanding why something is. It's time you stopped worrying about what time of the day you call that girl you're obsessing about. What matters is the following:
You live your life for yourself. People fit into your life, you dont fit into theirs. If you do this, you have more chance of finding an actual friend that not only will you connect with better, but you'll be available at the same times you are so you can go out etc. You have your own interests. You are happy within yourself and you dont need anyone else to keep you company because theres always something you're doing - Things you love or things that you need to be doing. It's time you stopped putting other people first and realise YOU have YOUR OWN life to live.
Men are like wild dogs. They get along through life and sometimes they hunt in packs. Other times, you become the lone wolf. Whatever happens, it's much more common for the dog to find a suitable female rather than another male that will stick around for a long time. Does the lone wolf miss his chances? No. So why are you? You have it easier than them.
I'm not trying to offer anything new and exciting. I'm trying to drill into your minds that you need to have a passion. You need to find someone that you really enjoy doing - something you can do by yourself or at some sort of club. Something you can geek out about and just indulge yourself in.
So, I'm not asking you to do this. I'm assuming that if you actually have any drive to change yourself you'll do it anyway:
-Find an interest. Anything. For me, it's guitar. I always come back to it. I've not made the best progress in the world (given the amount of time I've been playing), I dont set an hour aside every day to practice. I just sit down whenever I want to and I play.
-Educate yourself. It need not be a degree. It might be a basic electronics course - whatever it is make sure you'll learn something either practical or useful.
-Take care of your body. Clear up your diet and excersize if you can. Again, if you want to change, you'll go for a jog, you'll do some press ups, you'll do some sit ups. It doesnt cost anything and theres always time for some press ups/sit ups every day. It's not like you'll be missing an oppertunity to the the pyramids of egypt, right?
So now you're too busy to worry about why you're not making friends. You no longer think 'I'm so useless!'. Why? Cause you're going to live YOUR OWN LIFE.
How can you expect someone to love or like you, when you cant even love or like yourself? If you dont love yourself for what you are, you need to understand why you feel that way and change yourself accordingly. Dont talk about it, just do it. As soon as you sort your life out, everything will fall into place. Dont stress over getting a few more friends. They come and go. Never let anyone go as far as to be responsible for your own happiness.
For the most part, men live this life alone. Friends come and go - you get a group of people you 'know' from some place, and then maybe one or two that you consider actual friends. So why is this?
Well it's time you realised that it's not about understanding why something is. It's time you stopped worrying about what time of the day you call that girl you're obsessing about. What matters is the following:
You live your life for yourself. People fit into your life, you dont fit into theirs. If you do this, you have more chance of finding an actual friend that not only will you connect with better, but you'll be available at the same times you are so you can go out etc. You have your own interests. You are happy within yourself and you dont need anyone else to keep you company because theres always something you're doing - Things you love or things that you need to be doing. It's time you stopped putting other people first and realise YOU have YOUR OWN life to live.
Men are like wild dogs. They get along through life and sometimes they hunt in packs. Other times, you become the lone wolf. Whatever happens, it's much more common for the dog to find a suitable female rather than another male that will stick around for a long time. Does the lone wolf miss his chances? No. So why are you? You have it easier than them.
I'm not trying to offer anything new and exciting. I'm trying to drill into your minds that you need to have a passion. You need to find someone that you really enjoy doing - something you can do by yourself or at some sort of club. Something you can geek out about and just indulge yourself in.
So, I'm not asking you to do this. I'm assuming that if you actually have any drive to change yourself you'll do it anyway:
-Find an interest. Anything. For me, it's guitar. I always come back to it. I've not made the best progress in the world (given the amount of time I've been playing), I dont set an hour aside every day to practice. I just sit down whenever I want to and I play.
-Educate yourself. It need not be a degree. It might be a basic electronics course - whatever it is make sure you'll learn something either practical or useful.
-Take care of your body. Clear up your diet and excersize if you can. Again, if you want to change, you'll go for a jog, you'll do some press ups, you'll do some sit ups. It doesnt cost anything and theres always time for some press ups/sit ups every day. It's not like you'll be missing an oppertunity to the the pyramids of egypt, right?
So now you're too busy to worry about why you're not making friends. You no longer think 'I'm so useless!'. Why? Cause you're going to live YOUR OWN LIFE.
How can you expect someone to love or like you, when you cant even love or like yourself? If you dont love yourself for what you are, you need to understand why you feel that way and change yourself accordingly. Dont talk about it, just do it. As soon as you sort your life out, everything will fall into place. Dont stress over getting a few more friends. They come and go. Never let anyone go as far as to be responsible for your own happiness.
