"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stop Staying In Your Comfort Zone (1/2)

stuartSan

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I was at a seminar when they were talking
about the frog in boiling water.

For those of you who don't what this is about,
I've written it below:

The frog, being a cold-blooded creature, always
adapts to its surroundings. It makes itself
comfortable wherever it may be. Throw a frog
in a pot of boiling water and it'll jump straight
out because of the sudden heat. But by putting
it into a pot of warm water and boiling it,
the frog dies because it becomes TOO
comfortable with its surroundings,
never wanting to change.
By the time it realizes that the water is too
hot, its already dead.



The story above is a perfect example for
what I decided to post here today. NEVER be
happy with where and what you are in life.
Always change for the better. Learning is
an ongoing process and you can only get better
and better.

So you finally got kino mad skills?
Start working on something you're not good at.
Work on your conversation skills.
Eye contact.
Face expression.
Body language.

So you finally got a good schedule and love
the routine? Change something. Do something
different. Do not be afraid to try new things.
You can earn 50k a month, you can own a big
car, you can have the most beautiful girlfriend
any man could ever dream of having..
But you shall NEVER ever feel content. Do so,
and you'll end up like the frog.

Be too comfortable with your surroundings,
and when things start to change, you won't
be able to cope. What you had will be lost.
What you could've done, now you can't.

In this ever changing world, you have to
always be prepared for what the future holds.
Opportunities only come once. When you're 80
and your nuts are sagging, you'll look back
and kick yourself in your 80 year old wrinkly
butt for not taking initiative. For not doing
what could've gave you a better life today. For
being too comfortable and realizing how much
time you've wasted in the end.

Your life tomorrow will be the choices you
make today. So get off that chair and start
doing something. Call a long lost friend.
Start a new business. Take a walk.

Either waste your day, or get out of your
comfort zone and do something that isn't
natural to you. You'll be happy in the end
when you realize all the things you've been
doing only made you stronger.

e.g: You get nervous when you talk to women.
You get out of your comfort zone and start
talking to some. You realize how easy it actually
is. You conquer your fears and have succesfully
extended your comfort zone. Now aim for the stars.



[This message has been edited by stuartSan (edited 08-23-2002).]
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Excellent Post, we need a reminder to always strive for something better.

i like this post especially tho, it's decent how u layed it out

Thanks
 

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You are the fukkin man!!! Good motivation!


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bump!

I've not read a more correct post here.

Bible material.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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this is one of the best posts i have ever read in my life. truly magnificent.
 

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Well done, I like the frog metaphor.

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Who wants to be a DJ when you can be so much more?
 

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Bump


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I definitely agree with that. It should be applied to every level; socially, work-wise, dating, etc.

Hitler never took over Europe by staying in Germany.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible-worthy.
Who's twisted enough, though, to boil a frog? Oh wait... the French.
 
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Nocturnal said:
Make your weakness(es) your strength(s).
Goes great with "You are what you repeatedly do"

When I get in the mood, stealing AFC tactics to make people comfortable with me is pleasing:)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What do I have to do to want to get out of my comfort zone? It's so fvcking comfortable in here!

What do I have to do to enjoy - or just value - discomfort?
 

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Change your perspective on it.

Focus on growth instead of discomfort. Reframe it in your own head. It takes focus but that has worked for me often, when I didnt know how I was going to break a weak habit.

Only thing I disagree with in the original post is when he says "never be happy." I think a better way to put it would have been "Never be content." Happiness is good, but if you get content with where you are, happiness and the rest of your life will fade. Once you stop growing you start dying.

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