SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
And think for yourself.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Stop posting the same stupid questions over and over again.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NorwegianDJ
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Humans would not be alive today hadn't it been for our ability to learn from 2nd hand experience. We don't have to make all the mistakes everyone before us have; not to ask for advice is ignorant.SamTheHobit said:
We can't either expect everyone to use the search feature; neither do we have proper stickies, and the DJB can be hard to find (bottom left of the page).
Sam, I would really appreciate if you could drop the negative and unhelpful attitude I observe in you.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Some of these questions are ridiculous... 'should I text back' 'what if she has a boyfriend' 'what if she is ignoring me' etc. It's ridiculous, it's bordering on spam.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
That's the place where they're at right now. Guys come here in need of help. There's nothing wrong with being clueless and asking questions in order to learn. Just because an answer may be obvious to me or you doesn't mean that it should be obvious to all.
Instead of berating clueless men about their honest questions, you might do well to accept them and educate them. Never berate anyone for asking an honest question. If someone is given advice and they refuse to take it, that's a different story... berate to your heart's content.
But newbies will always be trickling in here with the same questions. They deserve to be treated with respect as they're trying to get a handle on this aspect of life and they're to be commended for it.
Instead of berating clueless men about their honest questions, you might do well to accept them and educate them. Never berate anyone for asking an honest question. If someone is given advice and they refuse to take it, that's a different story... berate to your heart's content.
But newbies will always be trickling in here with the same questions. They deserve to be treated with respect as they're trying to get a handle on this aspect of life and they're to be commended for it.
Domo_Arigatoo
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I agree, second hand experience is very helpful, but what most of these people think they can do is rely SOLELY on 2nd hand experience to get girls. Going out and attempting it for yourself might be hard, but you have to balance your 1st/2nd hand experiences and not weigh too much on either.NorwegianDJ said:
An example would be, if most of the guys on here were handed the girl of their dreams, would they be able to keep her? If she came up to him at a club and showed immense interest in him, would he be able to keep her interest high? or would he freeze up and chode out? Most likely he would lose her in a few days. After reading the bible and **** like that STOP READING AND GO OUT AND TRY THIS **** FOR YOURSELF. See what works, **** up, make mistakes, and learn from it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.