"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stop me from procrastinating

Pdizzzzzzle

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Does anyone have any tips with procrastinating?

It seems that now I am taking harder courses I tend to put off the home work until last minute, which make me lose sleep and do bad in school. Any tips on how to stop this?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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speakeasy

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I need serious help in this arena too. I'm trying to find that elusive silver bullet that ends the behavior.
 

Crazy Asian

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yeah i have a seriously problem with this too.
i actually fixed it last year and it felt amazing.
but this year, i slipped back into my old bad habbits.

How i fixed it was to start small.
you can't just sit down and decide you're gonna change completely.
people don't change like that.
start small and start feeling good about your little accomplishments.
GET ENOUGH SLEEP. that is by far the biggest thing.
it was like magic when i got enough sleep, and everything just fell into place.
 

Alle_Gory

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Yeah, what Crazy Asian said. And if you don't have enough drive and feel lethargic then fix your diet.

Add in some ZMA and a nice multivitamin (read the contents of the bottle before purchase).
 

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One would be getting off this site and doing what your;re supposed to do
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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nikko49

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haha i have the exact same problem as all of you (what a pathetic generation) i think i'm gonna try crazy asian's idea of taking small steps (also getting enough sleep) but yeah, for me procrastination existed but wasn't that severe in 9th and 10th grade but really made itself noticeable this grade.
 

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I've always had it, still have it, surely always will have it. It certainly has forced me into my share of all-nighters and near-all-nighters, but i've survived; didn't keep me from getting my bachelor's.

Its not about anxiety; its about there just being more enjoyable things to do with your time than study for some mundane crap or write out some uninteresting research paper. The object we are procrastinating is clearly not fun (or at least, there are more enjoyable alternatives available in the meantime), so it takes an immense amount of pressure before a person will finally crack down and apply themselves to the work in question.

I had one class ever that was so hard and demanding (and important to me) that I couldn't just W or F out of it, and the normal 3-4 hours of cramming didn't work; id still bomb the test. After getting 50's on the first two out of 4 total tests in the class (with the tests being our only source of a grade), I was so psychologically pressured to excel in the last two that I actually spent the entire day before studying. I managed to eke out a C final grade.
 
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