Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Stop me from doing something stupid!

Firefly

Don Juan
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So, long story short, I missed out on scoring with a 9.5 I met while travelling in Europe a few weeks ago because I kept on missing the seriously obvious signals of interest that she was putting out.

I am now SERIOUSLY fighting the urge to be an AFC and call her because it is her birthday.

I know that the smarter move would be to either
a: ignore her completely until it is time to visit Europe again
b: give her a call to thank her for letting me stay with her for a week, and throw in a patented "It was great staying with you, You are like a kid sister to me" (a line that for some reason for me, seems to greatly increase the interest women show in me).

Remind me what a seriously ****ing stupid move calling her now and wishing her a happy birthday like an AFC would be, and how it would completely close the door on any potential sex. Also, if anyone has any alternative approaches on salvaging the situation of missing obvious signals, that would also be greatly appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Buddhistguy

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Well, I already sent her a quick birthday message on Facebook, along with 60+ other AFC's. So maybe skip calling her for a few days?
 
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