Bokanovsky
Master Don Juan
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At the risk of making an esoteric post, I think that this a key issue that stands in the way of self-improvement for many here. And, in fairness, not just here, as what I am describing is a common human trait. People want to discover an epiphany. They want a simple explanation for whatever challenge they are facing (i.e. lack of success with women). And this desire for simplicity leads to black and white thinking and, ultimately, erroneous assumptions and incorrect conclusions.
Black and white thinking manifests itself in SS posters often reaching wildly different and contradictory conclusions on even the most fundamental topics. You will hear some say that looks don't matter and that game trumps all. Others will say that unless you are 6 ft+ Chad, "it's over". Some will claim that modern women are useless and spoiled. Other say that there is a crisis of masculinity and that men have become too beta. Some say that attractive women only care about money. Others will point out examples of billionaires whose wives or girlfriends are so unattractive that even an average incel would not touch them with somebody else's ten foot pole. Etc, etc.
In reality, all of the above is true...to some extent. And that is the key. Contradictory truths can coexist. Human beings are complex and not entirely rational, and so are their motivations and behaviours. You have to accept the fact that there are no simple answers to complicated questions. If you are struggling with women and don't understand why, it is unlikely that you're going to one day have sudden a revelation that would magically put everything in clear focus. Rather, you will have to learn by osmosis and rely on life experience to intuitively figure out what work and what doesn't.
Black and white thinking manifests itself in SS posters often reaching wildly different and contradictory conclusions on even the most fundamental topics. You will hear some say that looks don't matter and that game trumps all. Others will say that unless you are 6 ft+ Chad, "it's over". Some will claim that modern women are useless and spoiled. Other say that there is a crisis of masculinity and that men have become too beta. Some say that attractive women only care about money. Others will point out examples of billionaires whose wives or girlfriends are so unattractive that even an average incel would not touch them with somebody else's ten foot pole. Etc, etc.
In reality, all of the above is true...to some extent. And that is the key. Contradictory truths can coexist. Human beings are complex and not entirely rational, and so are their motivations and behaviours. You have to accept the fact that there are no simple answers to complicated questions. If you are struggling with women and don't understand why, it is unlikely that you're going to one day have sudden a revelation that would magically put everything in clear focus. Rather, you will have to learn by osmosis and rely on life experience to intuitively figure out what work and what doesn't.
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