"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stop being a p*ssy about women

JdelaSilviera

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1) They are not Perfect Creatures, and no HB10 do not exist. You can google "hot chick" or super hot for your convenience, and online you are able to see the most gorgeous women on the planet. And the reality is very very few are that impressive (even online and photoshoped.). When you find a girl with a very cute face, most probably her body is not that great, and if you find a hot one (which is rare after 23) her face won´t impress you. Many times what happens with your HB10 is a sort of self-hypnosis, you almost decide that the girl is perfect, I´m talking physically wise, by yourself. This is also happens about falling in love, a girl is completely indifferent to you then you spend an afternoon together, she might be dumb as fvck or not that attractive, but then you arrive home start thinking about her, and your inner romantic will make you see 1000 great things about her... you CREATE the habit of thinking about her and then boom you are in love.

2) Stop being approval seeking, if you make anything verbally or non verbally that shows your need for approval you just shot yourself in the foot. This also happens between guys and this is the main difference between the cool guy and the socially awkward. If a guy notices that you are trying to impress he just sees you as below him, even if he is very nice with you it´ll be in a condescending way.

3) Start having standards, and please only go for a chick if she really attracts you. It just sickens me the amount of ugly chicks who have an army of decent guys chasing them, or that have 50 likes on profile photos at fb.
I don´t know about you, but I feel worse if I get rejected by a chick that I´m not even attracted to, although the logic would say otherwise. But if I´m attracted to a girl I think she sees it and the interaction is more fun, and it´s always nice to talk to cool gorgeous girls even if you don´t score.

4) Make her want to impress you. What I notice in most relationships is that the girl "lets" the guy be her boyfriend, it seems almost a favor. Then when she is tired she´ll dump him. Most breakups are initiated by women, and this is so because men put themselves in a rank below women from the beginning, and women are calling the shots. Show her you have standards, and that you would have no problem dumping her if her behavior is not appropriate.

5) Behave as a cool,confident dude, and stop doing stupid sh*t like negs. Let me tell you that negs have always been around, although puas seem to claim the discovery. And I just see tons of losers constantly trying to put women down in hopes of getting attraction, it´s just too transparent.

6) Be social, have hobbies, widen your social circle, and you will get much more women.

7)Stop being bitter about women, not just because it´s an atitude characteristic of people who achieve very little, but because you don´t even have reasons to. Realize that despite having easy sex, women´s lives are quite boring, drama, gossiping, shopping etc. You didn´t want to be a woman really. And you wouldn´t want also to be at the peak of your life before the age of 25 like them...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good post mate. A lot of dudes could do worse than read this as a refresher on their mind-set. Sometimes even just the phrase 'stop being a p#### is all a guy needs to internalise.

I think all these things like 'being ****y and funny' and 'using negs' are good when they are done in a natural subconscious way but translate unbelievably poorly into socially awkward PUA readers.
 

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completely agree, though it's difficult to just stop being a p*ssy overnight...it's taken me 3 years to overcome this p*ssiness.

I would advise to just be yourself, seriously just be yourself, but a version of you that has pushed away all the anxiety of social interaction. Before I would try all that negging and try to force interaction. Much easier if you forget the rules and just act like a normal human being. This site's real purpose is to make you a better man, to improve your life. That will not happen if sit around all day and do nothing to change yourself. Go work out, quit wanking off to porn, succeed in your career. You will be surprised how little effort it takes once this is accomplished to attract women. I don't claim to be a lady slayer. I'm not good at approaching or closing, but damn I notice the attraction signs and I'm not nervous as f*ck anymore. Keep in mind I was f*cked up. Now I'm more of your typical guy who is social and all, gets a women every few months.

Being bitter will f*ck you up! That negative thinking creates a downward spiral. Why focus on that? Get better and quit being a b*tch.

Great post btw. Rep for you sir
 

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Great stuff.

Fantasy has led and left many a male floundering to his detriment, looking upon with betrayed eyes why the image of his musings lends him neither a hand, nor rope to sturdy himself...and with pleas to have mercy, she shoots back with silence, the neglect he never thought of to expect from his dearest gal. And so empties his fantasy, straining out all hope, and leaving behind his humiliation.

He learns the folly of living in fantasy over a woman and will remind himself that any thoughts of fancy will not be so naively taken.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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JdelaSilviera said:
1) They are not Perfect Creatures, and no HB10 do not exist. You can google "hot chick" or super hot for your convenience, and online you are able to see the most gorgeous women on the planet. And the reality is very very few are that impressive (even online and photoshoped.). When you find a girl with a very cute face, most probably her body is not that great, and if you find a hot one (which is rare after 23) her face won´t impress you. Many times what happens with your HB10 is a sort of self-hypnosis, you almost decide that the girl is perfect, I´m talking physically wise, by yourself. This is also happens about falling in love, a girl is completely indifferent to you then you spend an afternoon together, she might be dumb as fvck or not that attractive, but then you arrive home start thinking about her, and your inner romantic will make you see 1000 great things about her... you CREATE the habit of thinking about her and then boom you are in love.
In theory you are right, but that's not the real world. People lie, cheat, steal, and rape for a hot girl. It's the way society is. They control everything, for those who don't think so, you are deluding yourselves. Politicians risk 25 years of school and work to have a fling with a hot girl, Athletes risk millions of dollars to sleep with a hot girl. Can't expect the regular guy not to be affected.

2) Stop being approval seeking, if you make anything verbally or non verbally that shows your need for approval you just shot yourself in the foot. This also happens between guys and this is the main difference between the cool guy and the socially awkward. If a guy notices that you are trying to impress he just sees you as below him, even if he is very nice with you it´ll be in a condescending way.
I would say don't approval seek in public or when there are witnesses. But if you are alone and she is hot, not that big of deal. Your value to society is more when you are with a hot girl and approval seeking than without and not approval seeking.

3) Start having standards, and please only go for a chick if she really attracts you. It just sickens me the amount of ugly chicks who have an army of decent guys chasing them, or that have 50 likes on profile photos at fb.
I don´t know about you, but I feel worse if I get rejected by a chick that I´m not even attracted to, although the logic would say otherwise. But if I´m attracted to a girl I think she sees it and the interaction is more fun, and it´s always nice to talk to cool gorgeous girls even if you don´t score.
Don't get it either and agree.

4) Make her want to impress you. What I notice in most relationships is that the girl "lets" the guy be her boyfriend, it seems almost a favor. Then when she is tired she´ll dump him. Most breakups are initiated by women, and this is so because men put themselves in a rank below women from the beginning, and women are calling the shots. Show her you have standards, and that you would have no problem dumping her if her behavior is not appropriate.
Again its a supply and demand thing. The supply of hot women is low so they can pick and chose. That's why guys don't care unless the girl is hot. No way a guy would let an ugly or fat girl "let her pick him" as his boyfriend. But a hot girl? Different ballgame.


5) Behave as a cool,confident dude, and stop doing stupid sh*t like negs. Let me tell you that negs have always been around, although puas seem to claim the discovery. And I just see tons of losers constantly trying to put women down in hopes of getting attraction, it´s just too transparent.
I think you can neg playfully, just don't over do it or expect her to rip off her clothes.

6) Be social, have hobbies, widen your social circle, and you will get much more women.
Yeah you gots to be careful here, I've learned alot of women who got out to socialize/dance/meet people have boyfriends at home who they are regularly sleeping with. Women just want to be liked by everyone, have as many people show up to their funeral as possible. They go out, get their ego fix, and come home to safety and security to their own friends and family. That's why some guys get so frustrated, they have a social circle and have hobbies, but can't anywhere because the girl already has everything at home.

7)Stop being bitter about women, not just because it´s an atitude characteristic of people who achieve very little, but because you don´t even have reasons to. Realize that despite having easy sex, women´s lives are quite boring, drama, gossiping, shopping etc. You didn´t want to be a woman really. And you wouldn´t want also to be at the peak of your life before the age of 25 like them...

Dude its not just easy sex. I've said it before, they've have brought down countries because of the sex they can give. The trick is not to want the sex and then you are laughing.
 

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JdelaSilviera said:
7)Stop being bitter about women, not just because it´s an atitude characteristic of people who achieve very little, but because you don´t even have reasons to. Realize that despite having easy sex, women´s lives are quite boring, drama, gossiping, shopping etc. You didn´t want to be a woman really. And you wouldn´t want also to be at the peak of your life before the age of 25 like them...
^This all day.

I think deep down every young chick knows that she had better be having her fun while she's young because it's going to be rough times once she hits the wall. Ever wonder why our feminized, liberal media forces ideas like prom, high school/college sweethearts, and engagement rings down our throats 24/7? It's because the powers that be are trying to trick men into committing to some chick before he's even close to reaching his potential.

REALLY think about that sh!t for a minute. It's not a coincidence that our society places so much value on the late teens-early to mid 20's years of a man as the time he should definitely have an LTR or there must be something wrong with him. Heaven forbid he spend his time studying to get good grades or actually trying to figure out what he would like to do with himself. No, No he MUST have a girlfriend.

This is all a giant crock of Sh!t. To sum it up again, this is the feminine imperative screwing guys over before they ever even had a chance. DO NOT BE one of these guys. By all means go out and fvck some girls, but don't think for one minute that you have to get married because you're in your late 20's and "that's how it's done". I've gotta thank Rollo for turning me on to this feminine imperative stuff. It's unbelievable how selfishly uncaring the imperative is. But that's ok, you're a man and you don't have to live life by anybody else's rules but your own.
 
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