Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
Stop being a "Capitan-Save-a-Ho"
Something I´ve observed is that nice guys tend to take care of girls hoping that one day they will be so grateful that they will give their p*ssies to them. Yet most of the times while she´s being pampered by you she´s giving it to the bad boy who doesn´t give a sh!t about her. It´s funny how selfishness can be effective sometimes, while the guy who is too understanding is left with nothing but little money, and a broken heart. He may even taste the girl but only according to her agenda.
This quote summarizes this dynamics:
I had posted this "article" 5 years ago:
http://soulselfhelp.on.ca/coenmesh.html
http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1G2-3403100123.html
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=72531
Something I´ve observed is that nice guys tend to take care of girls hoping that one day they will be so grateful that they will give their p*ssies to them. Yet most of the times while she´s being pampered by you she´s giving it to the bad boy who doesn´t give a sh!t about her. It´s funny how selfishness can be effective sometimes, while the guy who is too understanding is left with nothing but little money, and a broken heart. He may even taste the girl but only according to her agenda.
This quote summarizes this dynamics:
The biggest problem is that we tend to put women on pedestal just because they are beautiful. It´s much more than looks.I will not give you what you really need, I can't. I am too busy trying to get what I need and deserve from you. I can give you a bit of this and that if you like but nothing that requires honest emotional investment because I am not emotionally available. I am really just empty. I am really all about smoke and mirrors. I love you so much though. I'd never hurt you. But then again, how would I know if I hurt you because I am substance addicted and oblivious to conscience or the feelings you have anyway you know? You, on the other hand, you are emotionally available and luckily for you I am here to demand and take endlessly from your compassion and empathic stores of emotion. You can chase me if you like but you won't catch me. What will happen is that the more you chase, the more I will get you and as I get you, you will get more caught up in trying to fix me then caring about yourself. I have you right where I want you.
The only one who can change is yourself, you need to rescue yourself (if you´re feeling unhappy with your life). Being a martyr or capitan save a ho is a lost proposition from the get-go. Recognizing and getting out of there is the first step, don´t waste your time trying to save someone, unless and only if there´s some real reciprocation and willingness to change.This toxic relationship is often driven by traits that predicate your acceptance hinging upon your taking care of someone else, or needing someone else to take care of you, fixing that someone else, or seeking someone else to fix you, being there for them and trying to rescue them - or trying to coerce someone else into being there for you and hoping they can rescue you - what emerges are usually very needy and unsatiable needs on the part of one person or both in a relationship who are codependent. Trying to rescue someone else or trying to be rescued amounts to enabling behaviour in ways and to extremes that see people end up neglecting themselves.
I had posted this "article" 5 years ago:
Source:It's the classic Snow White phenomenon. She can't get along with her family so she gets kicked out the house and wanders around aimlessly until these seven guys take pity on her and take her in. She's so sweet and lost and pretty. They'll save her and she will love them. Only while they're off toiling in a mine (a mine for crying out loud!) she's hanging around the house concocting schemes to piss off her stepmother and make out with that guy who goes traipsing around the countryside on a horse.
A guy, mind you, with no apparent means of gainful employment. So despite the fact that the seven guys take care of her, never lay a hand on her, sit by her side after she gets hold of a bad apple, she goes off with the guy on the horse who just shows up one day and sticks his tongue down her throat. A guy who has not been toiling in a mine and who will dump her on her ass for a blonde -- probably Cinderella. The problem here is that this type of woman has a master's degree in bad judgment and is not content unless her life is in a state of chaos.
Some men seem to be attracted to this woman because she appears to need rescuing. But a relationship is based on who you are, not what you can do for the other person. If you're the kind of person who gets all mushy at a girl's sad story you will always find yourself in the role of the horny dwarf because no one has ever been able to fix another person's life, ever. You either get your sh!t together on your own or you don't -- another person can not do it for you. Don't pass up women who can mange their own lives because you think they don't need you and won't like you. It is possible to have a satisfying relationship with someone who can take care of herself.
http://soulselfhelp.on.ca/coenmesh.html
http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1G2-3403100123.html
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=72531
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