"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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jdon23

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Whats going on with this forum?? Every other topic:

-someone has severe oneitis
- doesn't know where their life is headed. Some of these posts are so depressing, its like a farewell letter.
- stupid topics like WHEN TO TXT/CALL?? Are you serious? There are so many posts about this.. SEARCH THE FORUM! Read the DJ bible. Read some of Pook's inspirational topics.
- now the new thing on here is the confused guy "questioning" the dj mentality when it doesnt work for him. He offers his frustration but doesn't ask any questions?? How can any of us help you if you dont apply what you read and report back with a situation?

wtf??? why is this forum a breeding ground for needy little boy women


Look here's my advice.

If you can't get any women attracted to you then just stop trying for right now. If a girl cheated on you, ****ed you over, etc.. just accept it as it is. Life is full of suffering. Don't get depressed about it. Women aren't a priority.. YOU are. Fix yourself first and focus on other aspects of your life.

Once you are HAPPY with your own life and KNOW what you want from YOURSELF, I GUARANTEE that you will see women interested in you.


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I agree, but I don't think it's going to change. The needy ones are the ones least likely to understand that they need to read what's available to them. They want the quick solution or the quick fix, when you can't just learn something like that so quickly if you aren't already on your way there.

Those of us who aren't these needy/confused people don't have to post topics because we have figured out to apply what we have learned and try to learn from ourselves and our experinces when we don't immediately succeed.
 
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Stop being a d*ckhead

What's going on with this forum?

- Someone has severe oneitis
- Doesn't know where their life is headed.
- Some d*ckheads post how sad this person is and how he should "be a man".
- Some asshats blow their top and start rants on how this forum has become a breeding ground for needy little boy women.


Look, here's MY advice:

Accept that you are somewhere where many are not. Yet. Accept that each has their path to enlightenment, which is being "a man", and that this path starts here on this forum.

So stop complaining about people who don't get it yet. Be A Man for a change yourself and start helping these guys. Constructively.

It's not manly or mature to blow your top because you're irritated that someone doesn't get it yet. Doing that is usually the sign of someone who's only half-way on that path himself. Tops. You get irritated because you have not taken a proper distance from the chumpish wreck you were yourself not long ago.

Once you reach the end of that path and are really happy with yourself, you will understand that posts like this are really just as pathetic as those who are clueless about women.

Shouting at needy little boy women how stupid they are and what they should do and expecting them to adopt that overnight or to get and understand right now what you're saying, is just childish. Where chumps shout "But mommy, why doesn't she like meeeee!", you're shouting "But mommy, why doesn't he listen to meeeee!"

What you're doing is not helping. Change takes time. Changes favours the patient. People need teachers. Teachers are patient. You are not.


And please don't take this personal, Grasshopper. I'm just pointing out your behaviour. This is in no way an attack on your person.
 

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Alexander the Great said:
What's going on with this forum?

- Someone has severe oneitis
- Doesn't know where their life is headed.
- Some d*ckheads post how sad this person is and how he should "be a man".
- Some asshats blow their top and start rants on how this forum has become a breeding ground for needy little boy women.


Look, here's MY advice:

Accept that you are somewhere where many are not. Yet. Accept that each has their path to enlightenment, which is being "a man", and that this path starts here on this forum.

So stop complaining about people who don't get it yet. Be A Man for a change yourself and start helping these guys. Constructively.

It's not manly or mature to blow your top because you're irritated that someone doesn't get it yet. Doing that is usually the sign of someone who's only half-way on that path himself. Tops. You get irritated because you have not taken a proper distance from the chumpish wreck you were yourself not long ago.

Once you reach the end of that path and are really happy with yourself, you will understand that posts like this are really just as pathetic as those who are clueless about women.

Shouting at needy little boy women how stupid they are and what they should do and expecting them to adopt that overnight or to get and understand right now what you're saying, is just childish. Where chumps shout "But mommy, why doesn't she like meeeee!", you're shouting "But mommy, why doesn't he listen to meeeee!"

What you're doing is not helping. Change takes time. Changes favours the patient. People need teachers. Teachers are patient. You are not.


And please don't take this personal, Grasshopper. I'm just pointing out your behaviour. This is in no way an attack on your person.
Thanks for putting this in the right perspective for me. I have much to learn still. I will work on being more patient, so I can be a better teacher, and not another asshat who goes on ranting.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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