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Master Don Juan
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I should have made this thread a while ago, when all this was first starting, but oh well.
It seems that my awesome-ness has caused my best friend's gf to fall for me. At first, I tried to discourage her, and told her not to think about me that way, to stay with my friend, etc. It didn't really work.
Now, the three of us would hang out all the time. Chill in my dorm, go to the movies, go eat, drive around. And everytime we were together, me and her would constantly flirt. I guess I just couldn't help myself. But her... wow, she's brave. She'd do it right in front of him! Anyone could plainly see what we were doing, but he'd never say anything. Up to this day, he's never commented on it. Maybe he really is that clueless? I dunno.
So we'd flirt, and we'd talk on the phone, and we eventually figured out we really liked each other. Add on the fact that their relationship was kind of falling apart already, and then I came along and accelerated it. I felt kinda bad about that, but even if I tried to stay out of this, she'd still like me, so they were doomed either way.
Fast forward to this week. Currently, they're pretty much over without knowing it. She feels no attraction for him at all. She doesn't look at him when he's talking to her. She can't even stand to kiss him, she always pulls away. Either he's really that stupid and can't pick up on those obvious signals, or he just can't let go. In his eyes, they're still 'together', and he thinks it can come back. I doubt it.
On Monday, she came over to my dorm, alone, and we were going to study some stuff she needed to know for work. Heh, so much for that. We ended up making out and such for about 2 hours. First time we ever went that far, and also, first time I made out with someone for more than 15 seconds. Don't ask. Anyway, that was fantastic.
Next night, she called me, and we basically talked about "What the hell did we just do?". Now, all through this whole thing, we've talked about how we shouldn't really do this, and how messed up it is for my friend. My reasoning is that he wasn't strong enough to keep her, and I just happen to be a better catch for her. Makes sense right?
Now, the only thing that's holding her back from straight up leaving him and going with me, are these "unwritten rules of dating". Where you don't date your friend's gf, and where you don't date friend's ex's, in which the second one is stupid to me. A friend had a girl and now she's off limits forever? Stupid.
Its like, her head is telling her this is wrong, but her heart is telling her its oh so right. She's trying sooooo hard to resist me, but she gives in sometimes, like on monday. A girl is governed by her emotions, right? She's torn in half here. She wants me, she really really does. But with all the circumstances surrounding that, she just can't seem to take the leap. And I think she's a very strong person for that.
I talked to my friend the other day, and I was asking him about their relationship. He basically said that she hardly talks to him about anything anymore, but she'll talk to me and her friends. So I asked him if he thinks they might break up, and what would he do if they did. He said that he would understand if they did, and he hopes it doesn't happen anytime soon, but he could see it happening. And if it does, he said "That's life man. I'll just roll with it". Ok, so maybe he isn't quite as clueless as I thought. It doesn't seem like he'd be amazingly hurt if they did break up, but I wonder if he'd be mad if I go with her. Btw, he'd have no problems finding a new girl. He's sort of a natural, at least with getting them. Obviously, not as good with keeping them.
Her and I planned to meet up again on Wednesday night, but she ended up working late, till like 10:30. Her family won't let her go out that late. Guess we can try again tonight or tommorow. Maybe on the weekend. So it seems like her emotions are starting to take over her mind. No doubt that if she did come over again, we'd just make out even longer, or move on to other things...
So. What do you guys think? I'm a horrible friend and person? I should keep going for it? It's his own fault? Forget about this girl and move on? I don't have oneitis for her or anything, and I don't feel like I'd really be hurt if this doesn't work out, but I'd immensly prefer if it did. I've already gotten more good out of this whole thing than bad, so I'd call it a positive experience overall.
Anything else you guys need to know, just ask. Otherwise, any input is great, so bring it on. I'd really like to see the general opinion on this.
It seems that my awesome-ness has caused my best friend's gf to fall for me. At first, I tried to discourage her, and told her not to think about me that way, to stay with my friend, etc. It didn't really work.
Now, the three of us would hang out all the time. Chill in my dorm, go to the movies, go eat, drive around. And everytime we were together, me and her would constantly flirt. I guess I just couldn't help myself. But her... wow, she's brave. She'd do it right in front of him! Anyone could plainly see what we were doing, but he'd never say anything. Up to this day, he's never commented on it. Maybe he really is that clueless? I dunno.
So we'd flirt, and we'd talk on the phone, and we eventually figured out we really liked each other. Add on the fact that their relationship was kind of falling apart already, and then I came along and accelerated it. I felt kinda bad about that, but even if I tried to stay out of this, she'd still like me, so they were doomed either way.
Fast forward to this week. Currently, they're pretty much over without knowing it. She feels no attraction for him at all. She doesn't look at him when he's talking to her. She can't even stand to kiss him, she always pulls away. Either he's really that stupid and can't pick up on those obvious signals, or he just can't let go. In his eyes, they're still 'together', and he thinks it can come back. I doubt it.
On Monday, she came over to my dorm, alone, and we were going to study some stuff she needed to know for work. Heh, so much for that. We ended up making out and such for about 2 hours. First time we ever went that far, and also, first time I made out with someone for more than 15 seconds. Don't ask. Anyway, that was fantastic.
Next night, she called me, and we basically talked about "What the hell did we just do?". Now, all through this whole thing, we've talked about how we shouldn't really do this, and how messed up it is for my friend. My reasoning is that he wasn't strong enough to keep her, and I just happen to be a better catch for her. Makes sense right?
Now, the only thing that's holding her back from straight up leaving him and going with me, are these "unwritten rules of dating". Where you don't date your friend's gf, and where you don't date friend's ex's, in which the second one is stupid to me. A friend had a girl and now she's off limits forever? Stupid.
Its like, her head is telling her this is wrong, but her heart is telling her its oh so right. She's trying sooooo hard to resist me, but she gives in sometimes, like on monday. A girl is governed by her emotions, right? She's torn in half here. She wants me, she really really does. But with all the circumstances surrounding that, she just can't seem to take the leap. And I think she's a very strong person for that.
I talked to my friend the other day, and I was asking him about their relationship. He basically said that she hardly talks to him about anything anymore, but she'll talk to me and her friends. So I asked him if he thinks they might break up, and what would he do if they did. He said that he would understand if they did, and he hopes it doesn't happen anytime soon, but he could see it happening. And if it does, he said "That's life man. I'll just roll with it". Ok, so maybe he isn't quite as clueless as I thought. It doesn't seem like he'd be amazingly hurt if they did break up, but I wonder if he'd be mad if I go with her. Btw, he'd have no problems finding a new girl. He's sort of a natural, at least with getting them. Obviously, not as good with keeping them.
Her and I planned to meet up again on Wednesday night, but she ended up working late, till like 10:30. Her family won't let her go out that late. Guess we can try again tonight or tommorow. Maybe on the weekend. So it seems like her emotions are starting to take over her mind. No doubt that if she did come over again, we'd just make out even longer, or move on to other things...
So. What do you guys think? I'm a horrible friend and person? I should keep going for it? It's his own fault? Forget about this girl and move on? I don't have oneitis for her or anything, and I don't feel like I'd really be hurt if this doesn't work out, but I'd immensly prefer if it did. I've already gotten more good out of this whole thing than bad, so I'd call it a positive experience overall.
Anything else you guys need to know, just ask. Otherwise, any input is great, so bring it on. I'd really like to see the general opinion on this.
