"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stirring the pot: is sexual exclusivity necessarily a good thing in a LTR?

Is sexual exclusivity necessarily good for long-term relationships?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 66.7%

  • depends upon the peopl involved

    Votes: 3 33.3%

  • depends upon the circumstances

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • depends upon many factors

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • No

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Other

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    9
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Bonhomme

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The_Reaper's thread about being burned by a long-distance relationship (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=125854) got me thinking about whether or not sexual exclusivity really serves people well in a relationship. I'm not necessarily referring to Bacchanalian orgies, but having occasional activity on the side, using the safest practices.

Anyone who's been around the block a few times knows that anybody is attracted to many other people.

I have a number of theories about this, but have some work to get back to now that I'm done eating.

What are your thoughts on the subject?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you are banging others, then why call it a relationship? I prefer keeping things vague to avoid assumptions.
 
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Hi there.... I wonder what thread you could mean...

The reason that female infidelity is so frowned upon is not an arbitrary social double standard; it stems from evolutionary psychology: she may become pregnant with another man's child and you may waste your resources and investment on someone else's genetic material.

So, NO. Sexual infidelity is not desireable. It's part of our moral code and we must adhere to it if we expect our partner to also stick with it.
 
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