"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey,

I don't want to bother you with another long story, So I'll just ask you in a straightforward kind of way (with little context)

A girl cheated on me, because she lost attraction for me(yeah, I screwed up badly) even though she loved me. Then I followed your advice, and forgot about her completely, I stopped calling her, deleted her from MSN, facebook, etc, . Months(8) fell off the calendar, and like a month ago I joined twitter to follow a guy from my job, and not two weeks passed after I joined, and she adds me, or follows me (whatever the action is called on twitter).

OH and by the way, I have never talked to her again...

Now, I just wanted to have your point of view about what do you think is going inside her mind that made her do that ?

PS. She is totally aware of what she did (cheated)


CG
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ChaoticGamer said:
Hey,

I don't want to bother you with another long story, So I'll just ask you in a straightforward kind of way (with little context)

A girl cheated on me, because she lost attraction for me(yeah, I screwed up badly) even though she loved me. Then I followed your advice, and forgot about her completely, I stopped calling her, deleted her from MSN, facebook, etc, . Months(8) fell off the calendar, and like a month ago I joined twitter to follow a guy from my job, and not two weeks passed after I joined, and she adds me, or follows me (whatever the action is called on twitter).

OH and by the way, I have never talked to her again...

Now, I just wanted to have your point of view about what do you think is going inside her mind that made her do that ?

PS. She is totally aware of what she did (cheated)


CG
She needs to fix what happened in her own mind. She needs closure to make herself feel better.

Whatever specifically she's going to do to make this happen will not beneficial to you in any way.

It's an itch that she can't scratch. It's not about her being interested. It's about her.
 

ChaoticGamer

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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
She needs to fix what happened in her own mind. She needs closure to make herself feel better.

Whatever specifically she's going to do to make this happen will not beneficial to you in any way.

It's an itch that she can't scratch. It's not about her being interested. It's about her.
I think I understand what you're saying. But at the same time I don't understand how could it be about her, and her alone, when it's something she did TO ME.

Thanks for the reply...

CG
 

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ChaoticGamer said:
Hey,

Now, I just wanted to have your point of view about what do you think is going inside her mind that made her do that ?
Following you on Twitter? I have never been into the whole twitter thing, but I am just guessing that she's just a bit curious about your life now. The best thing to do is to have your own life and pretend she's not there.
 

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1] Her current BF dumped her and she wants to see if she can connect with the "chump that used to love her". SHE hates being alone. You'll do until the next big thing comes along.

2]she wants to see if the man who used to worship the "godess"[her] is still suffering[since he lost the best thing he will ever have in his life].

3] she wants to know where you are so she can parade her new BF past you.

or worst of all

4] The cheater wants to get back with you.Marriage is on her mind. KNOWING you forgave her cheating and took her back, she will have NO reason to be faithful this time either. Only now you lose custody of your kids[if they ARE yours] and half your stuff.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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ChaoticGamer

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sharkybear said:
Following you on Twitter? I have never been into the whole twitter thing, but I am just guessing that she's just a bit curious about your life now. The best thing to do is to have your own life and pretend she's not there.
He He He He,

That's exactly what I've been doing for the last 9 months. And what you think, I think myself, she's curious. By society's standard I'm successful, and I'm quite certain she knows this by far.

However it gets me thinkin' that if she dares to go as far as to follow me (add me or whatever) on this social network, why doesn't she just tell me something?
 

ChaoticGamer

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sodbuster said:
1] Her current BF dumped her and she wants to see if she can connect with the "chump that used to love her". SHE hates being alone. You'll do until the next big thing comes along.

2]she wants to see if the man who used to worship the "godess"[her] is still suffering[since he lost the best thing he will ever have in his life].
Ha Ha Ha Ha, If #1 is true, then she would have sent me a message or called.
But then again, that's why I posted this thread, because I can't figure out what she's thinking. still can't.

and, #2..... Probably more plausible...... ha ha ha ha ha

CG
 
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