STILL stuck on this girl...I need help,i'm about to break...

[Bullszeye]

To make it short,I'm in love with my best friend.I've tried to stop being friends with her and keep away,but to no avail....I really don't know what to do anymore...Right now she's still in love with her ex and talks **** about how he was the best boyfriend ever,even though he was your typical dumb jackass...I really,really want to either "unfall" out of love,or make her my girlfriend.I did talk about how i thought i was in love with her but she told me to just unfall out of love so i guess that's LJBF...I'm not your typical sweet BFF,in fact i'm rather cold towards her but i listen to what she has to say and give back very intelligent answers...I do not know what to do...Please help me out,i can't get my mind off her for the last 6 months...

 

[Mr Wright]

You're not going to get the girl anytime soon. I think the problem is that you don't actually want to fück her. You have no sexual relationship this girl and you're asking her to jump into a relationship where she shows you affection, in other words, she's your girlfriend but you're showing no sexual intent. She wants to get fücked but you're showing no inkling that you'd be any good in bed. You're more bothered about her liking you than actually banging her. You're trying to sell her something that she already has. You're trying to sell her the cow after giving her the milk for free, she's had your attention, you talk to her often enough but as far as she's concerned you have nothing else to offer. Just remember the guy who has banged the girl first has first dibs on everything and you'll always be in second place to the guy who makes her cüm. You just want her to be your girlfriend, why not a fückbuddy? ...probably because you don't really want to bang her but just have her affection exclusively. She wants to get fücked well and her ex will provide that better than you will in her mind.

I have one question for you, do you regularly jack off thinking about this girl?

 

[thunder_god]

The only thing you can do is to cut her off. Go no contact. Completely remove her from your life. I know exactly how you feel man. My old oneitis just recently called me like 2 days ago after I went no contact on her for 2 months. My dumbass friend told me to pick up her call and I stupidly did. It brought back all the pain and old memories I had of her. She later texted me but I ignored her text. I'm going to stay no contact until I'm over her and developed the skillset to get other girls.

If you really want this girl, the only way is to go no contact and completed change yourself and start dating other girls but even then there's no guarantee. When you've gotten over her completely, then you may try again with her if you still want her. She will see you in a completely different light but you need to become that new person before she will see you like a lover instead of a friend. Now I'm in no way advocating doing this for the girl. In fact in the beginning I was kind of trying to change myself for the girl, but now I'm like ah **** it, I ain't doing this for her, I'm doing it for me. She blew her shot with me so too bad for her. I'm going to go find someone else who looks and treats me 10x better then her.

 

[Bullszeye]

I jack off very rarely,like once a month,but when i do i think about her.It's not that i don't want to **** her,in fact i want to **** her SOO bad,like really,she turns me on sooo much.I do not ever show her that i want to **** her though.A **** buddy? never thought about it that way...but i have no idea how do i make a girl into a ****buddy,especially a virgin girl...But you are right,maybe i should start showing her that i want to **** her,but how exactly do i do that?Lol.I can touch any part of her and do anything,that's how easy going i am,just tell me how please...

Cutting her off is my very last resort.I really want her,and I want her now.

 

[Mr Wright]

I jack off very rarely,like once a month,but when i do i think about her.It's not that i don't want to **** her,in fact i want to **** her SOO bad,like really,she turns me on sooo much.I do not ever show her that i want to **** her though.A **** buddy? never thought about it that way...but i have no idea how do i make a girl into a ****buddy,especially a virgin girl...But you are right,maybe i should start showing her that i want to **** her,but how exactly do i do that?Lol.I can touch any part of her and do anything,that's how easy going i am,just tell me how please...

Cutting her off is my very last resort.I really want her,and I want her now.

You probably won't be able to fück her unless you cut her off for a while, that's the long and the short of it. Why would she fück you when she has a good thing going already? If you want to get with her, you shouldn't have been acting like her friend all this time.

The best you can do is say something like "we have to stop hanging out because you're turning me on too much." and she'll tell you to stop being silly. Then you assure her it's not joke and that you're "thinking about bending her over that table and giving it to her." That way there is no confusion, she can't just pass off what you're saying and sit you back in the friendzone. Say no, walk away if you have to, you're only mugging yourself off if you don't.

 

[narcissist]

I love how every thread theres always the classic "go no contact" advice.

EVERY THREAD.


But yeah, go no contact for a while.

 

[narcissist]

The best you can do is say something like "we have to stop hanging out because you're turning me on too much." and she'll tell you to stop being silly. Then you assure her it's not joke and that you're "thinking about bending her over that table and giving it to her." That way there is no confusion, she can't just pass off what you're saying and sit you back in the friendzone. Say no, walk away if you have to, you're only mugging yourself off if you don't.

I cosign this. Its a brilliant plan.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

1. She's not a great prospect because:

a) She has desire for someone else.
b) Though she surely likes you, she doesn't desire you because you are in the friend-zone. For her it would be like kissing/f*cking her brother! Imagine that, and you understand your problem.

2. You cannot negotiate desire (i.e. tell her you're in love with her). You can only inspire it, as described in the other responses. Your actions will work far better than words. Communicate covertly, rather than overtly.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude the most important thing in a relationship is maintaining the proper "no fuucks given" frame.

You have so utterly lost this frame with her there may be no going back at this point.

You should just go for it in the most honest way possible and as you crash and burn you will learn game through your suffering with this girl. You will also push her away from you so she will no longer be an option and you can carry on with your life with this painful scar to keep you honest with yourself.

And be sure to read the links at the bottom of the page ALL OF THEM

 

[Bullszeye]

I really wanted to keep the "no contact" plan as a last resort...The "you're turning me on" excuse really made me laugh but to be honest,it just might be what i need to do...But still,is there anything,ANYTHING at all that i can try before i distance myself away?

EDIT:I just thought about it and realized why i am in the friendzone.Even though i am turned on by her and touched her very sexually a few times,I never actually showed or acted like I wanted to fvck her...Neither did i ever risk,meh it's my fault...I read on here somewhere a long time ago that i should touch the girl that friendzoned me sexually and act like a wild animal that wants some ass and then tell her "I'm so glad we're just friends.." Is that bull****,or a legit thing?

EDIT2:Holy hell,read ALL of those links?I really don't have time to read that but i see there are many interesting tips,so i'll start reading it when i have some free time

 

[sylvester the cat]

YOu're in love with this girl and she knows it. thus YOu have zero power. Girls are not attracted to men with no power. forget about her. it's your only salvation.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I really wanted to keep the "no contact" plan as a last resort...The "you're turning me on" excuse really made me laugh but to be honest,it just might be what i need to do...But still,is there anything,ANYTHING at all that i can try before i distance myself away?

EDIT:I just thought about it and realized why i am in the friendzone.Even though i am turned on by her and touched her very sexually a few times,I never actually showed or acted like I wanted to fvck her...Neither did i ever risk,meh it's my fault...I read on here somewhere a long time ago that i should touch the girl that friendzoned me sexually and act like a wild animal that wants some ass and then tell her "I'm so glad we're just friends.." Is that bull****,or a legit thing?

EDIT2:Holy hell,read ALL of those links?I really don't have time to read that but i see there are many interesting tips,so i'll start reading it when i have some free time

You're starting at ground zero buddy...

Educate yourself or forever eat the leftovers of real men...

 

[Bullszeye]

I'm going to keep her next to me,and use her as a wingwoman...I was reading the Dj bible and something just "cracked" in me...Maybe it's just for the moment,but right now I am not in love with her at all and i want to use her to get other women(Idk how but i'll read on it)....Thanks for all the tips....

 

[goldengoose]

This chick just wants you around for a friend. When you try to escalate to being more than a friend she will cut off your friendship. Do you like hearing about her ex and what she means to her? Quit being a chump, go get a girl that you can fvck instead if listening to some chick pine away for her ex.

 

[Trump]

I really wanted to keep the "no contact" plan as a last resort...The "you're turning me on" excuse really made me laugh but to be honest,it just might be what i need to do...But still,is there anything,ANYTHING at all that i can try before i distance myself away?

Just distance yourself away and find another girl. While your head is spinning because you are so in love with her and don't know how to express these wonderful emotions to her, her ex is ripping off her dress and pounding her hard.

If this girl who you are so in love with is not worried about it, why are you worried about it? She has to be the one screaming and crying and blowing up your phone, telling you not to sleep with any other girls because she wants you, not the other way around.

You have been thinking about her 6 months while she is carefree and having sex every other day. Come on bro!

 

[bigneil]

You don't need our help. You need another woman.

I met an HB9 last night and we went out for lunch today. She was 15 minutes late but by that point I had the bartender's phone number from the place next door. Not only was she sad that I had to leave and not only has been texting me ever since, but my date (of course) went great and she kissed me goodbye without my trying. I've literally had 4 girls text me in the last hour. Do you think I'd still be hung up on some chick from 6 months ago?? Do you think she's still thinking about you? Find another goddamn girl. In the meantime, start dieting, biking, and doing push ups.

Guys, we are only as good as our second best option.

 

[TARKUS]

To make it short,I'm in love with my best friend.I've tried to stop being friends with her and keep away,but to no avail....I really don't know what to do anymore...Right now she's still in love with her ex and talks **** about how he was the best boyfriend ever,even though he was your typical dumb jackass...I really,really want to either "unfall" out of love,or make her my girlfriend.I did talk about how i thought i was in love with her but she told me to just unfall out of love so i guess that's LJBF...I'm not your typical sweet BFF,in fact i'm rather cold towards her but i listen to what she has to say and give back very intelligent answers...I do not know what to do...Please help me out,i can't get my mind off her for the last 6 months...

Meeting another girl who spreads her legs will take your mind right off of her.