Still No Success ?

[iFEEL]

Why is it that so many people can't succeed in getting girls ? It is because they believe that this is the only thing they must handle in their lives to become perfect. But the fact is that it is not. They don't succeed with women because they don't succeed with life. Because they have a ****ty life they attract no women at all. And it completely correct that if you improve your life girls will come without you even having to WORK HARD for it.

When you fix all your inner problems that you have developed over the years of being SOCIALLY DEAD you experience a some kind of epiphany. It gives you a feeling of being a GOD. You can handle everything. You are great at anything new or old you do. You develop that strong inner confidence. And that is true power within yourself.

Forget about girls being the most important thing you must focus in your life. They are not. How are you going to be happy with a girl if you can't be happy with just yourself ? Think about it. Girls sense that you are needy and they will do anything to get away from that needy-you.

Become a great person and you'll attract girls with ease. Develop inner confidence, positivity, go for your goals and your passions, do what you always wanted to do. The one and only approach to getting good at anything is by following the principle LESS IS MORE. Take a sheet of paper and write down everything negative you want to change about your thinking and behaving. Now pick only one of those and break it in as many small details on which you can improve as possible. Now you have the big topic separated into many small ones. Now remember this. Take one small step and work on it until you master it, until you believe it. After you have done that move to the next one. You must focus only on one small step at a time.

It all sounds so easy. Taking one step a time right. But actually it is not. There is still a small part in you that doesn't want to take any risks involved for you to become greater. So it depends on you to detect when this voice starts to beat you motivation down and show it the finger and just do what you wanted to do. After a while of successfully ignoring that negative voice your brain will start to do it without thinking about it. You will become a positive minded person without your worst enemy stopping you which is yourself.

 

[JackPrescott]

The true reason is male to female Ratio. There are simply too many sausage factories these days parading as bars, nightclubs, pubs and hang out joints. Men EVERYWHERE, and not enough ladies to go around.

Reverse the scenario, and it's women who would chase us.

 

[Mistic]

And it is completely correct that if you improve your life girls will come without you even having to WORK HARD for it.

This is really the gem in your thread, and I have been hinting at this for some time. But so many guys here want to work on their game first. What should I say? How should I act? When should I call? This is completely backwards thinking.

Become a better person with an interesting dynamic life and the women will find you.

 

[scottfall]

The true reason is male to female Ratio. There are simply too many sausage factories these days parading as bars, nightclubs, pubs and hang out joints. Men EVERYWHERE, and not enough ladies to go around.

Reverse the scenario, and it's women who would chase us.

Why do you think the hang out joints are sausage factories? Its because men think they need what women have.

 

[Mad Manic]

Why do you think the hang out joints are sausage factories?

Because there are more men there than women.

MM

 

[nismo-4]

The true reason is male to female Ratio. There are simply too many sausage factories these days parading as bars, nightclubs, pubs and hang out joints. Men EVERYWHERE, and not enough ladies to go around.

Reverse the scenario, and it's women who would chase us.

It was like this in the 80's and 90's. The time when if a girl had a boyfriend she meant it. Nowadays, it's easier for only celebrities and the rich. The average got too much competition, not to mention attract the wrong girls.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I don't know,for me,it seems like either a lack of certain things,or social anxieties,I feel I am not attractive,I don't have any game,I haven't done much to change my situation,and I am still in the same position. It's like the want is there,the goals are there,but the action is not. It could be due to severe low self esteem or depression. Or not reading the signals. Or feeling out of place. And for some reason,I do nothing. No or very little meeting new people,don't really go to bars,not much of a social circle,constanly feeling like I am not the person I want to be. Or like I fall below the criteria. Or I don't have enough attractive qualities,w/e that means. Like I am not an athlete,musician,artist,etc. I really feel like I got nothing going for me,no school,no life,and it sucks. And I feel so behind.Perhaps its a defeatist attitude,or not being able to feel good about things.or anything.

 

[SinJester]

This thread is right but wrong at the same time.

And it is completely correct that if you improve your life girls will come without you even having to WORK HARD for it.

It doesn't work like that. Not working towards improving your life and believing women are the answer is completely wrong thinking, and I agree. But say you get a guy who is studying to be a doctor, and because of social conditioning he thinks 'when I'm a doctor I'll have money and so I'll be able to get a hot girl'. He could put a lot of work into becoming this, and this is not inherently a bad thing. The problem is that he believes that all his problems will be solved when a certain thing happens, and this is never true. Even when he is out socially he will probably think 'this is a waste of time I will probably get a girl when I get my degree anyway'.

Ok so what happens when he gets there? Will he suddenly become a pimp? No. The only reason I can see this working if he gets there and he truly BELIEVES that it will happen so he attract a girl into his life. Otherwise he could end up socially awkward, which is very unattractive.

So imagine if that guy invested time in improving social skills. He will probably end up having more fun and probably having a few girls along the way, ending up much more attractive and having a better time as he goes along. My belief is that improving social skills in general directly influences your skills with women.

There is a false belief set that some guys have. They realize that women aren't the most important thing and life, and that’s good. But then they go about 'improving' themselves and stop being social or talking to women altogether, even though in the end they are (usually) doing it to be able to get a woman. This is the wrong mindset. How are you going to get better with women if you don't expose yourself to situations where you can adapt and grow?

You need balence. You have to work on yourself and go out socially to improve your skills with women at the same time. I'm always repeating this so I think I'll just make a thread out of it...

Ok so maybe there is nothing wrong with this thread, but I can see people misinterpreting it. Why? Because I've been there, I've done that and I've learnt from that. I don't want people to have to make the same mistake.