Still no girlfriend, but I'M FVCKING GOING TO MAKE IT WHATEVER IT TAKES

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Damn, 2 years of studying seduction, so many beautiful girls around, a lot of them attracted to me and still not a single one WITH me. Why? The attraction is there, so the only reason is lack of action. As I was frustrated 2 years ago by not being able to attract girls, I'm now frustrated by not being able to actually get a GF.

I've done 2 very crappy and unsuccessful approaches so far a few months ago (you can find a FR of the first one somewhere on this board), but I got sick of it because it was SOOOOO UNNATURAL that I must have looked like some stoned dumbass.

Currently, my social circle is not wide enough for me to afford not approaching, so the only way is to practice it.

However, there is a big BUT. I just seem I can't manage to look like "Mr. Charmer". I rather look like a weirdo and don't seem to actually understand how I should do it.

What about this classic scenario: me walking opossite to a HB. Seems to me that whatever I do, it will ALWAYS seem awkward (even whatever I read in the "tutorials" ... and it probably usually does, because I was talking with girl friends about approaching and they literally said that those guys "are usually stoned")... It's a little better for me to imagine doing this in library, gym or such, but this is what remains unclear to me.

Anyways, I'm going to do 5 approaches on Sunday, no matter what. And I mean it.

Thanks in advance for your advice
D.H.A.

 

[Bvbidd]

That's hilarious.. every approach I've made made was when I was stoned. This is so true.

uh anyways keep in mind it's a lot easier on the mind if you take it easy and just go for friends of friends or something in a social group.. if you let any kind sexual feelings free they will pick-up on it.. and it'll be a whole lot less creepy then to total strangers.

If it's in a social circle or something it's a lot easier.

 

[SamePendo]

Approach and approach trying new things, so that you develop an approaching personality that, fits your personality.

 

[Bvbidd]

**** You Realize This Wisdom!!!!!!!

Go Out And Get A Girlfriend While Letting Her Know Of Your Sexual Feelings.

She Is The Same As You Man. She Has The Same Thought Process. She Wants A Man Like You. Give It To Her> GIVE IT TO HER. FVCK ANY OTHER FACTOR. COME ON REALIZE THIS WISDOM.

 

[NorPacWolf]

No Excuses!

1. Have you gone through the DJ Bootcamp?

2. Have you tried Mystery's Newbie Mission?

http://www.mysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3313

3. Have you purchased and read Mystery's Venusian Arts?

4. Have you taken a seduction workshop? Pickup 101 and Juggler are supposed to be good and reasonably affordable (at least in comparison to Mystery Method workshops).

5. Are you in a small town? Search masf, and see my thread in the archives section.

6. Are you impatient? See realsmoothie's thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103794

7. Are you in college? Read here:

http://www.mysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9018&highlight=college+university

8. How often do you go out? You MUST go out at least two nights a week if you are going to improve.

9. Finally, feel free to ditch this board at anytime. If you listen to posters here, your skills will decline precipitously.


Wolf

Damn, 2 years of studying seduction, so many beautiful girls around, a lot of them attracted to me and still not a single one WITH me. Why? The attraction is there, so the only reason is lack of action. As I was frustrated 2 years ago by not being able to attract girls, I'm now frustrated by not being able to actually get a GF.

I've done 2 very crappy and unsuccessful approaches so far a few months ago (you can find a FR of the first one somewhere on this board), but I got sick of it because it was SOOOOO UNNATURAL that I must have looked like some stoned dumbass.

Currently, my social circle is not wide enough for me to afford not approaching, so the only way is to practice it.

However, there is a big BUT. I just seem I can't manage to look like "Mr. Charmer". I rather look like a weirdo and don't seem to actually understand how I should do it.

What about this classic scenario: me walking opossite to a HB. Seems to me that whatever I do, it will ALWAYS seem awkward (even whatever I read in the "tutorials" ... and it probably usually does, because I was talking with girl friends about approaching and they literally said that those guys "are usually stoned")... It's a little better for me to imagine doing this in library, gym or such, but this is what remains unclear to me.

Anyways, I'm going to do 5 approaches on Sunday, no matter what. And I mean it.

Thanks in advance for your advice
D.H.A.

 

[Jackman]

Take a step back and look at this entire seduction thing with a new perception.

The reason why it feels unnatural is because it is. With the majority of concepts on this site, you're not supposed to study and then run out to apply them. You're suppose to simply become aware of them, that's it, only so you can realize the potential moment to use them when the opportunity presents itself to do so.

It is more than likely that your approaches are horrible and odd feeling simply because you plan them. If you find yourself thinking about any of this stuff during an approach, then you're probibly forcing it. You shouldn't be thinking about this stuff at all. Instead, a certain moment in conversation should remind you of a certain concept on this site, rather than thinking about all of the stuff on this site and waiting for a moment in conversation to apply them like a cat waiting to leap on a mouse.

The only way to become a natural is to go with the flow without a plan.

 

[skip2mylou781]

become invincible to fear of rejection by approaching and hitting on EVERY cute girl u see.....once u get to a 100, ull stop caring and not be so weird

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

* banging his head against the wall *

Sometimes it feels like I am just never going to have a single girl in my whole life Damn, I don't even have a clue how all those people who have girlfriends got together... did they just get to know them somewhere, built rapport and then kissed without asking? The third part doesn't really seem real to me and I would never even think of it if I wasn't reading this site... or did they just ask? How did you get girls BEFORE you learned about kiss closing and all the stuff around?

Thanks in advance for your replies to the questions above

 

[DonJuanForever]

Hey Dark Haired Alpha, I am retired from this forum and I'm not coming out of retirement. But buddy, read my thread in the tips section called, "I have it" read some of skip2thelou's post, Pook's posts, and some others. All of the information you need to create the destiny you want sits before you, just grab it.

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Hey Dark Haired Alpha, I am retired from this forum and I'm not coming out of retirement. But buddy, read my thread in the tips section called, "I have it" read some of skip2thelou's post, Pook's posts, and some others. All of the information you need to create the destiny you want sits before you, just grab it.

OK, I will, but can someone anwer this question for me - how do all those people get together? Do they ask each other? Or do all the guys have the balls to approach and/or kiss close? I'm confused even about this one Or, how did you guys get girls before you found this site?

 

[wrender]

I don't even have a clue how all those people who have girlfriends got together... did they just get to know them somewhere, built rapport and then kissed without asking? The third part doesn't really seem real to me and I would never even think of it if I wasn't reading this site... or did they just ask? How did you get girls BEFORE you learned about kiss closing and all the stuff around?

Just about every girlfriend I had (including my current one), I've met through social circles. I've never been good at, nor have I found it very easy to do cold approaches. Meeting through mutual friends or at parties has always been the most comfortable environment for me. It's really not that hard, especially if you know the girl's single. Just use strong body language and eye-contact and engage them in conversation. And be sure not to spend the whole evening talking to the girl. Get up and socialize with everone else for a while, then come back to her later. If you're interested enough in her, tell her you'd like to get her phone number (don't ask, tell her). Don't worry about wheather or not she likes you. Girls can be tough to read. I've gotten numbers and dates from girls I almost neglected to even get their number simply because I thought they MIGHT not be interested. Always assume they are.

As far as kissing goes. I never ask. I just do it when the moment is right. If you have a hard time finding that right moment during the date, simply do it at the end of the date (dont' forget to use some kino throughout the date to lead up to this). But again, don't ask. Look at her eyes, then her lips, then her eyes again. Then just go for it nice and slow. It's not hard it just takes some confidence. And we all know how important it is to have that quality.

I don't really recommend doing a kiss-close when you first meet her unless there's tons of attraction being displayed and possibly moderate amounts of alcohol in her system. There's really no need to get physical at first unless your just looking for a ONS.

 

[comic_relief]

alright Dark Haired Alpha this will be a :kick:

I can find the one common denominator in your pattern of failure.

Now, I could tell you the different things that you are doing, but I am reminded of a quote from Pook, "As you think you shall become."

Your common denominator is sh!t. I found this post to reek of it.

First off, get a new attitude.

Secondly, approaching girls once you get into college (I'm guessing that your 18 from previous posts) is the easiest friggen thing that you can do. Don't stay anywhere near your old life. I would actually suggest moving at least two hours away from your home right now. I am three hours away from here and believe me, if I did not have a girlfriend, I would be getting girls left and right.

Thirdly, become proactive, not reactive.

Fourth, read the DJB section on approaches.

Fifth, Get out there into the real world.

Sixth, try the DJ Bootcamp

Seventh, go out join some clubs (I am currently in a Swing Dancing Club and an Outdoorsy Nature Club. Girls eat it up )

Eighth, Just go have fun and don't take life to seriously. If you do, you may not come out alive.

Ninth, Why are you still here? Get out there.

Smile, be happy, become successful, and then get laid. Notice the order my friend.

Comic_Relief