Still have AFC/wussy reputation

[sanoj]

I had a lot of growth and more success in attracting women the last year and I don't consider myself an afc or a "loser" anymore. Hanging out with new friends really helped me sosially and strengthened my confidence alot. Now that the summer is here, my new friends from the university are gone on vacation and I've started hanging out with my old friends that I've known for many years. The thing is that I sense that my oldest friends still see me as the wussy I was before. I know it can take some time to see a persons change, but it really gets frustrating when my oldest and supposedly best friends treats me with less respect than my new friends.

This summer i'm going on a roadtrip with 3 of my old friends + a girlfriend of one of them. I dated this girlfriends best friend back when I was still an AFC. After doing tons of things that i regret and that i am ashamed of, the relationship of course ended in pain and brutal rejection to put it nicely.

I would rather be with my new friends, but then again I have nothing to lose going on this vacation considering my "bad" reputation.

How can I relax and be myself? How can I resist the urge trying to impress them? How do I deal with the frustration when I get treated with less respect than I deserve?

I wanna be able to enjoy the vacation!

 

[Scars]

Prove it to them by your actions. Don't try, just let your new found knowledge and confidence radiate off of you, let them be impressed by your natural ability to charge any situation like the man that you are. If they disrespect you then stand up for yourself. It'd be best to try and get this out of the way before the trip to avoid any clashes.

 

[Vypros]

When you get to a place where you are secure with yourself, you won't care about what other people think of you (that means either good or bad).

I would take this as a sign that you still have some insecurities within yourself to face. So face them.

 

[Exhumed]

Face it, we will always care about what people think of us at least a little bit, and anyone who says they don't care what their friends think of him/her is lying. A secure person doesn't care what random people think and doesn't change what they consider to be good qualities in order to be accepted by someone.

I think it's a completely valid question and I'd agree with Scar's answer....I sort of have this as well, I went through a similar de-wussifying so for a while I had to stand up for myself around certain friends...since you're spending summer with them they will probably just be happy to see you and immediately notice you've changed. I wouldn't worry too much if you really have gone through this change.

 

[beasty]

I agree with scars. its all about your actions. Dont allow for any sort of disrespect, I changed a lot at a point in a similar way and it took a little bit of time for my friends to see it but when they did, they adjusted to the new me. As long as you dont compromise yourself and adjust to them.

Show off the new you; and as far as that girls friend. Make sure to bang a few hot chics on the trip. Nothing pisses a girl more than when a guy they dumped is withe hotter girls then her.

Have fun and enjoy your trip. If your friends dont realize your change, then ist time to stick closer to your new ones.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

But watch out, some people don't respond well to others who change. This is when you will find out who had considered themselves superior to you.

They usually feel threatened by you, and they may want to see if you're the real McCoy.

If someone challenges your new status, kick his @ss.