Still cant seem to take enough chances..

[drf408]

I've been on a fairly decent, run, but as usual, mostly with girls I've done next to nothing to get. I am still terrible at hitting on a girl I see that I like, usually only go for the ones i know are a sure bet (come up to me etc).
I was at locak supermarket a few weeks ago, and i saw this girl, blatantly smiled at me and looked me up and down. Kept running into each other, she would smirk and put her look at me. I didn't say anything, I left, regretted, but oh well.
The following week I go into a food joint and this really cute girl is working behind the counter. Before I order she says "this is going to sound weird, but I saw you" she then says "at xxxx market". I reply with "oh yeah, hi.." small talk ensues, I get my food an leave. Would most have hit on her at this point?
I've seen her a few times since at this place and she doesnt flirt really, but she does give the extended look, my friend noticed that and she acts like we know each other. But I've got nothing, I just tell myself shes friendly and leave. I need to shake the feeling that its a big deal to hit on a chick and not succeed, instead of settling for what comes my way. I go blank in these situations...nothing to say. And I'm usually a guy that has TOO much to say

 

[justanothernormalguy]

It seems like you already know your chances are high with this girl stop looking for other people to confirm it for you and just, man up. Ask her out, get her number, whatever, but do something!

What's worse, rejection or regret? And you aren't lifelong friends it's not like much is at stake here...

Build some confidence trying, otherwise just live your life complaining about it. Your choice.

 

[t00dumb]

always think 1 step ahead. always find something funny to say after the first question from her just to hit it off.

something like

Oh hey ya! I'll definitely remind myself to put you on my stalker list, list is gettin' pretty long heh heh. **** like that. (since she saw you before).

saying something humorous leaves a lasting impression than just mediocore small talk with nothing interesting to say plus it opens in a positive vibe the next time she sees you too.

 

[Mr Wright]

always think 1 step ahead. always find something funny to say after the first question from her just to hit it off.

Surely having that mindset is hurtful in the long run because you're training yourself to not be in the moment.

 

[drf408]

Yeah, I definitely need to think less if anything. Oddly though I am at my worst when I know I've got some interest from the girl, not sure if it's pressure or what but I always end up just going passive.

 

[Mr Wright]

Yeah stop thinking and go with the flow of the interaction. You will screw it up hundreds of times now but soon you will learn just how an interaction is roughly meant to flow.

 

[The_411]

Women check, men know.

It's pretty simple once you start trying to figure out if someone likes you you're already toast. Just assume they do until they show you otherwise.