Still a virgin at 27... advice?

[iSuave]

No, sex isn't that important but people seem to think it is. I've been insulted / made fun of because people found out I've never had sex or been in a relationship. I know that I'm a joke to the girls in my social circle, which puts them and their friends off limits. I've tried to get girls outside of my social circle but it never seems to go well. Maybe I'd think the date went well but then they wouldn't want to go out again. And it's been suggested that I'm doing something wrong or giving off the wrong vibe.

The only reason I said maybe I'm not muscular enough is because I don't know what my problem is and most girls seem to obsess over the muscular hot guys.

Persistance doesn't seem to work for me, eventually the girls get pissed off and cut off all communication between us (I've even been threatened with a restraining order once, although that was a extreme case, I think the girl was a little crazy)

I have a question... is it taboo that im still a virgin at 27?

I tried asking this questions at rsd, and the losers at www.puahate.com took my thread over at RSD , and made fun of me. Im glad they got banned from rsd because i was emotionally hurt.

http://www.puahate.com/showthread.php?t=2185

By the way my name is Jared... just wanted to say hi to my fellow sosuave brothers.

Edit: The blueprint decoded didnt help much... i think my biggest issue is that i have massive approach anxiety.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

What is "rsd"??

 

[iSuave]

What is "rsd"??

Real Social Dynamics

 

[Maxtro]

Uh did you make a new a new account to post this thread?

The link you gave led to PUAhate.com and therein they gave a link to this RSD thread, which I assume was written by you.

The author of that thread is Kal0051. There is a Kal0051 who posts on Sosuave. Since it's not a common handle, the logical conclusion is that it's the same person. So if you are Kal0051 why bother making a new account? A mod can easily do an IP check to make sure. As far as I know it's not against the rules to have two accounts it just strikes me as odd. I could be wrong, it doesn't really matter.

 

[HolyG]

troll

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Hello,

Taboo? Yes, but 12% of men over the age of 25 are still virgins so there are millions of men like you out there.

I would suggest posting your questions in the mature man forum. It's a special forum here for men aged 25 and older only. You'll get much better advice there than here.

 

[alwayslead8821]

Jared,
To me it sounds like you need to figure yourself out and build your inner confidence. A lot of the girls like the muscular guys mainly because they are confident! I think the main purpose of going to a gym is not building your muscle it’s building your confidence.
How do you be confident? It is as simple as starting to really appreciate and love you. When you are confident you are receptive to everything around you and you do not get caught up in your thoughts.

When you are thinking about too many things whether it is what to say, does she like me etc. You are putting out bad vibes. Vibes like not speaking like a man and not being smooth while talking. Not having good posture and good body language. You will especially do this if you haven't had sex and will naturally put girls up on a pedestal and seem desperate. THat is not what they want, they want confidence and someone that is secure in themselves. Read every post on positive thinking and train yourself. NO ITS NOT TABOO just fix it, and you’ll see how little of a deal it was

 

[nismo-4]

Jared,
To me it sounds like you need to figure yourself out and build your inner confidence. A lot of the girls like the muscular guys mainly because they are confident! I think the main purpose of going to a gym is not building your muscle it’s building your confidence.
How do you be confident? It is as simple as starting to really appreciate and love you. When you are confident you are receptive to everything around you and you do not get caught up in your thoughts.

When you are thinking about too many things whether it is what to say, does she like me etc. You are putting out bad vibes. Vibes like not speaking like a man and not being smooth while talking. Not having good posture and good body language. You will especially do this if you haven't had sex and will naturally put girls up on a pedestal and seem desperate. THat is not what they want, they want confidence and someone that is secure in themselves. Read every post on positive thinking and train yourself. NO ITS NOT TABOO just fix it, and you’ll see how little of a deal it was

Jared, you really need to let the above quote marinate.

If you became one of these muscular hot guys, you'd be naturally confident as women would be on you a lot.

If I were you, I wouldn't be broadcasting that you haven't lost the v-card or been in a relationship. This can (and seems to already did) make you the laughing stock of social circles, even your own. I worked at a restauraunt and it was discovered that I wasn't in a close relationship or had children. I became the butt of many jokes there, but I was just a quiet, keep-to-myself-don't-bug-nobody type dude. My personal life was nothing to be disclosed at work.

Power tip, Valentine's day is right around the corner. Maybe you can get a date around that time?

 

[amoka]

Uh did you make a new a new account to post this thread?

The link you gave led to PUAhate.com and therein they gave a link to this RSD thread, which I assume was written by you.

The author of that thread is Kal0051. There is a Kal0051 who posts on Sosuave. Since it's not a common handle, the logical conclusion is that it's the same person. So if you are Kal0051 why bother making a new account? A mod can easily do an IP check to make sure. As far as I know it's not against the rules to have two accounts it just strikes me as odd. I could be wrong, it doesn't really matter.

Maxtrol just "detected" another troll. Besides, in the thread at RSD, the thread reads "Is it pathetic that at 25 I'm still a virgin?". This guy does not even know how to be a consistent troll. Good work, detective.

 

[iSuave]

Uh did you make a new a new account to post this thread?

The link you gave led to PUAhate.com and therein they gave a link to this RSD thread, which I assume was written by you.

The author of that thread is Kal0051. There is a Kal0051 who posts on Sosuave. Since it's not a common handle, the logical conclusion is that it's the same person. So if you are Kal0051 why bother making a new account? A mod can easily do an IP check to make sure. As far as I know it's not against the rules to have two accounts it just strikes me as odd. I could be wrong, it doesn't really matter.

I have to confess.. i copy pasted that thread. It describes me almost perfectly, except for the age. Im also a member of RSd.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I have to confess.. i copy pasted that thread. It describes me almost perfectly, except for the age. Im also a member of RSd.

Right...totally....I do that all the time....

 

[Kal0051]

Yeah, he copy and pasted a thread I made just getting opinions of whether I should lower my standards just to get laid. Decided to not do it.

 

[Kal0051]

Lol, and after reading what he copied, he didn't copy the original post. He only copied the part where I'm responding to people's comments.

 

[alwayslead8821]

Why are you guys just talking about whether he copied a post? Who gives a sh!t, this thread is about giving him advice not making fun of him

 

[( . )( . )]

Assuming your not a troll you must have the sexual desire of a eunich, a healthy but socially inept 27 year old male with an average to high sex drive would have either banged a whale or paid for a prostitute by now.

I've been insulted / made fun of because people found out I've never had sex or been in a relationship

Whats your point? I'd be ripping the sh!t out of you if you were someone in my circle, a 27 year old man who's never been with a woman in any way is not only pathetic it's downright strange and unnatural.