"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sticking point at the corner of Dating and Maple Ave.

tyson

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Hey, fellow forumers.

I am stuck at a place where I can get girls real phone numbers but not out on a date. It's like their attraction level is high when we part, but fades before a meetup can happen.

So, 2 questions:

1 - what do I need to work on during the interaction when I'm getting a number; How do I create deeper attraction?

2 - Is there any texting road map that lines out how I should go about asking girls out? They all reply to me and banter, agree to go out, but flake on the date.

Thanks you incredible people. :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheException

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tyson said:
Hey, fellow forumers.

I am stuck at a place where I can get girls real phone numbers but not out on a date. It's like their attraction level is high when we part, but fades before a meetup can happen.
Doubtful. Its much more likely their "attraction level" was never high to begin with....
1 - what do I need to work on during the interaction when I'm getting a number; How do I create deeper attraction?
The problem here is your mindset.

You shouldnt be giving a sh1t about "creating deeper attraction". If the girl is not interested its her loss. You should be the one trying to find out if she is a match for yourself.......not trying to impress or attract her.
2 - Is there any texting road map that lines out how I should go about asking girls out? They all reply to me and banter, agree to go out, but flake on the date.
Cut the banter.

One to two playful texts then ask "What days are you free next week?".

Game over.
 

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@TheException - thanks for the break down man. I completely get all of that.

Loading mindset recalibration..........

Successfully ****ing complete.

Ty
 
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