Even though I appear to be new, I have been here for ten years. When I got here I was extremely shy and in bad shape. Fast forward ten years and I have slept with a good amount of women but the best thing is that I have gained confidence.
I work with this beautiful Middle Eastern girl at work, who unfortunately has a boyfriend, and she commented me on my conversational skills. "You are so good at conversation because you can talk about a lot of different things and seem knowledgable and are a lot of fun." You don't know how big of a compliment that was for me, especially for someone that beautiful, because I was so damn shy and hesitant about everything when I was younger. Hence, why I didn't get laid.
You also see how most people are terrible at conversation and want someone to lead when talking. Another thing I have noticed is how some beautiful girls are extremely dull and uninteresting once you stop admiring their beauty. They only know how to play off their own beauty and talk about themselves.
Have I failed and still need more work? Of course! Over the last ten years I have been rejected, at times harshly, by women but don't let it affect me anymore. Better you tried than not knowing. The way I was by pining was actually worse. I used to always be scared and wonder about a girl I was scared about approaching. She would leave the club/bar and I would hate myself for not trying. I get rejected, I know my answer and the girl leaves my mind.
There are a lot of good articles and posts here from people in the same situation. I talked to this guy on here, and actually met him when I was in the city where he lived, and he was cool. He is now married to a beautiful and extremely cool girl. Keep trying and learn from everything and realize it is never too late to get it back. There are so many beautiful girls in the world waiting for you to talk to them!
ps... befriend a FUN hot girl... get to know and understand what you are pursuing. Plus, you can practice flirting on her
I work with this beautiful Middle Eastern girl at work, who unfortunately has a boyfriend, and she commented me on my conversational skills. "You are so good at conversation because you can talk about a lot of different things and seem knowledgable and are a lot of fun." You don't know how big of a compliment that was for me, especially for someone that beautiful, because I was so damn shy and hesitant about everything when I was younger. Hence, why I didn't get laid.
You also see how most people are terrible at conversation and want someone to lead when talking. Another thing I have noticed is how some beautiful girls are extremely dull and uninteresting once you stop admiring their beauty. They only know how to play off their own beauty and talk about themselves.
Have I failed and still need more work? Of course! Over the last ten years I have been rejected, at times harshly, by women but don't let it affect me anymore. Better you tried than not knowing. The way I was by pining was actually worse. I used to always be scared and wonder about a girl I was scared about approaching. She would leave the club/bar and I would hate myself for not trying. I get rejected, I know my answer and the girl leaves my mind.
There are a lot of good articles and posts here from people in the same situation. I talked to this guy on here, and actually met him when I was in the city where he lived, and he was cool. He is now married to a beautiful and extremely cool girl. Keep trying and learn from everything and realize it is never too late to get it back. There are so many beautiful girls in the world waiting for you to talk to them!
ps... befriend a FUN hot girl... get to know and understand what you are pursuing. Plus, you can practice flirting on her