Stepping outside the box

[diplomatic_lies]

There's alpha, beta, master, slave...but what if you step outside all that? What if you simply take a step back, and go your own way?

I've heard a billion arguments about alpha vs beta, and about leaders vs followers. But do you have to be an alpha/beta, or a leader/follower?

I've always had the view that society is about those who lead, and those who obey. I applied it to my social life, to work, to the sports I play. There was winners and there was losers; nobody else existed. Self-improvement (life, women, career) became a contest for me that I had to win at any cost.

But these days, I'm occasionally getting glimpses of people who are "outside" this whole thing. They are the guys who seem to lead carefree (yet successful) lives; who don't lead, but don't follow, who aren't alpha, but aren't beta either.

My question is simple. Is it possible to step completely outside this "hierarchy" and go your own way? If so, how difficult is it?


PS. I know I'm rambling a bit, but I'm finding it difficult to express what I'm thinking about, so this is the best I can do.

 

[Desdinova]

A person who has stepped out of the box and is doing his own thing is a leader. He's leading himself. Another way to look at it is he's "following his heart." It still boils down to him leading.

Another thing I noticed is that when one begins doing his own thing, people will automatically follow. He's not intentionally leading anybody, but it's happening automatically. I have that happen all the time.

The followers are the ones who look for acceptance. The leaders don't need anyone's acceptance.

 

[brucevangeorge]

Of course. We just label such people as alphas.

This is probly the simplest path of all and yields the greatest rewards. As long as you are true to it.