MacAvoy
Banned
Well after coming to the decision to start living life to the fullest and not protecting my heart. I had a very interesting night. I decided that I would lay it all on the line with her from now on, that I would wear my heart and my sleave and love her like I wasn't afraid to get hurt anymore.
Well it started with me asking to go to her bedroom so we can talk in private, told her that I wanted to tell her something important. She asked why we couldn't talk in the living room, I told her it was deep and wanted privacy. She has a roommate who was in his bedroom and rarely comes out but I wasn't prepared to have a discussion where someone could walk in.
Like everything else, she makes a big drama about it. Doesn't want to go in her room because thats only for sleeping. She aggravates me to the point where I don't even feel like tellin her anymore. So I tell her, if you still want me to tell you, lets go have sex first, then I'll tell you after that. After 10 mins, I ask her if she wants to have sex on the couch to prove a point, she's not willing to because somoene might come out, I explain thats exactly why I wanted to go in the room.
So we go to the bedroom to fvck. First she doesn't want to go under the sheets cuz she doesn't want to get them wet. Then she doesn't want to get completely naked. We eventually go under the blankets & fvck. Almost as soon as we're done, she asks me to tell her now. I said no, after you wash your face, (20 min deal) cuz I wanted a chance to collect my thoughts. She said no. She also said earlier than she doesn't want me to sleep over tonight cuz she has to wake up early in the morning and doesn't sleep well when I'm there. So I tell her, I'll tell you but you've got to let me sleep here.
She says no. I proceed to get dressed. I then tell her its over, that I've had enough. She asks why. I said because I'm not willing to be partially in a relationship. She asks if this is what I wanted to talk about earlier, I said no it wasn't an only eluded to that it was the opposite that I wanted to open up to her. Her only reply was, well if this is what you want Macavoy. I said yea Goodbye and left.
If she's not willing to fight, then I don't want part of it. I have no idea whats next. I don't know how I feel. I feel like I've walked away from the best thing that I've ever had. I feel like once again, I've proven that I can't stick something out for the long term. However I have to take solace that if you love someone you have to set them free and if they love you they'll come back.
So here I am, 1200 miles away from my home. I'm still glad I'm here. I've got no regrets about coming here. It was important for me, coming here was never totally about her. I'm starting my new job tomorow. Its the most exciting job I've had in 3 years and probably the best long term possibility I've ever had.
I've taken the first step. I've cut the line and I'm not going to be the one who fixes it. I'm starting to move on. If she comes back, from here on out, the onus is on her to prove that she wants part of this relationship. I WILL NOT CONTACT HER. If she contacts me, I will not answer the call. I will make arrangements via email to pay her what money I owe her. If she wants to talk about our future, she will have to be doing all the heavy lifting from here on out.
This is my life and if she wants to be part of it, she has to earn it.
I wanted to let her know that I was ready to open up to her. I wanted to let her know why I was holding back. She knows about what happened a couple of years ago but we haven't talked about it and its impact on my life. I was going to spill my guts and get it off my chest so that I can move forward.Sinistar said:...so what exactly does "lay it on the line" mean with respect to this woman?
Well it started with me asking to go to her bedroom so we can talk in private, told her that I wanted to tell her something important. She asked why we couldn't talk in the living room, I told her it was deep and wanted privacy. She has a roommate who was in his bedroom and rarely comes out but I wasn't prepared to have a discussion where someone could walk in.
Like everything else, she makes a big drama about it. Doesn't want to go in her room because thats only for sleeping. She aggravates me to the point where I don't even feel like tellin her anymore. So I tell her, if you still want me to tell you, lets go have sex first, then I'll tell you after that. After 10 mins, I ask her if she wants to have sex on the couch to prove a point, she's not willing to because somoene might come out, I explain thats exactly why I wanted to go in the room.
So we go to the bedroom to fvck. First she doesn't want to go under the sheets cuz she doesn't want to get them wet. Then she doesn't want to get completely naked. We eventually go under the blankets & fvck. Almost as soon as we're done, she asks me to tell her now. I said no, after you wash your face, (20 min deal) cuz I wanted a chance to collect my thoughts. She said no. She also said earlier than she doesn't want me to sleep over tonight cuz she has to wake up early in the morning and doesn't sleep well when I'm there. So I tell her, I'll tell you but you've got to let me sleep here.
She says no. I proceed to get dressed. I then tell her its over, that I've had enough. She asks why. I said because I'm not willing to be partially in a relationship. She asks if this is what I wanted to talk about earlier, I said no it wasn't an only eluded to that it was the opposite that I wanted to open up to her. Her only reply was, well if this is what you want Macavoy. I said yea Goodbye and left.
If she's not willing to fight, then I don't want part of it. I have no idea whats next. I don't know how I feel. I feel like I've walked away from the best thing that I've ever had. I feel like once again, I've proven that I can't stick something out for the long term. However I have to take solace that if you love someone you have to set them free and if they love you they'll come back.
So here I am, 1200 miles away from my home. I'm still glad I'm here. I've got no regrets about coming here. It was important for me, coming here was never totally about her. I'm starting my new job tomorow. Its the most exciting job I've had in 3 years and probably the best long term possibility I've ever had.
I've taken the first step. I've cut the line and I'm not going to be the one who fixes it. I'm starting to move on. If she comes back, from here on out, the onus is on her to prove that she wants part of this relationship. I WILL NOT CONTACT HER. If she contacts me, I will not answer the call. I will make arrangements via email to pay her what money I owe her. If she wants to talk about our future, she will have to be doing all the heavy lifting from here on out.
This is my life and if she wants to be part of it, she has to earn it.