"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stealing HB9+ from bad relationship

Mack Action Hero

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Hey everyone!

So my parents are friends with this family that apparently has a 22 year old superhottie for a daughter (looks strikingly like Eva Longoria but hotter..). We were introduced because we just moved here and I don't know any kids in town. I've handled everything pretty by-the-book and she showed very definite signs of high interest, but it has suddenly stalled and I don't get much of a read out of her any more. She's too hung up and depressed about how things are going with her bf to give me any consideration now, it seems.

Perhaps you as guys have seen a relationship where you know it is CLEARLY doomed, but it takes the girls possibly months and months to figure that out for themselves? This is one of those cases. I don't know what's up with this guy, they've gone out (off and on I think) for some years, and they went from talking about marriage last month to now, where he is suddenly making excuses not to see her all the time. Maybe he sat down and thought about marriage and got scared off :p

So she is like a puppy dog with him kinda stringing her along cause he either doesn't have the balls to break it off or (more likely) he wants to keep her around cause.. well.. she's ridiculously hot :rolleyes:


So! This girl and I have hung out a couple times, she's aware that I am dating other girls, I layed on the kino and flirted with her.. and she seems to gain interest and then lose it! She is extremely depressed about her bf, but she is a great girl and I want to step in and be more than friends with her before some other bum snatches her up :D

I haven't overtly crossed the friendship line, and having gone to the mall, coffee, and walked around town a bit with her I almost feel like I'm out of "friendly" activites to do, since I'm being cautious about taking her on a blatant date.

Since this girl still seems to be fairly in love with Mr. Jerko (since women take so damn long to come to their senses) and she is very fragile at the moment, I think she will want to remain "faithful" to him, even though there may be no salvageable relationship to be faithful to. Hence, any advice like "just kiss her the next time you see her" may be too blunt.

What would you do in this situation?

Do you...

1. Cut off contact with her for a couple weeks and hope they're totally broken up when you get back (and she hasn't already rebounded to some other guy.. or the bf doesn't fix things up with her!).
2. Just step in and take over the role of the BF, taking her to dinner as though it is normal and treating her like your GF to get her to switch that mindset towards you?
3. Just keep doing what I am doing with hanging out with her but loading on the kino, ****y/funny, etc. until hopefully she falls for me?
4. Unknown!

Normally I'd get her over to watch a movie and put the moves on, but I think that might freak her out at this point.

Please give me your input! :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First thing to do is make it known you have a sexual interest in her. You don't want to bring her fresh plucked daisies or bake her chocolate chip raisin cookies.

Second, In her mind you have to plant those seeds that the idiot boyfriend is worth tossing away.

Get cracking buddy boy.
 

Mack Action Hero

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KarmaSutra said:
First thing to do is make it known you have a sexual interest in her.
I've been trying a fair amount of that, she usually counters with something like "I don't think my bf would like that very much.."

KarmaSutra said:
Second, In her mind you have to plant those seeds that the idiot boyfriend is worth tossing away.
Done and done :D
 

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you can't express in words that you want her. You have to use indirect game. Check out Mystery Method for the ways he gets women to build up attraction for him.

You haven't gotten her to want you yet. Thats what its all about.

She doesnt want to skip directly to u as a b/f. You have to fvck her, go to parties, to go clubs w/ her first. Friendship w/ benefits then move into the relationship phase after she's had adequate time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mack Action Hero

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Damn do I feel dumb reading my old posts. Might as well tell what happened though: I banged the bejeezus out of that smokin hot girl, she cheated on her bf, wanted a relationship with me.. I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship and banged her some more. What a difference time makes for perspective.. geez
 

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any pics? nah just kidding mate. But do share how u managed to turn the situation around...
 

MikeYikes122

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I was in the same situation when I was a freshman in college. Whatever you do, do not verbally express your interest in her or try to tell her that she isn't right for her boyfriend. When it comes to relationships, chicks - especially depressed ones - seem to not mind living in a fantasy world. If you point out to her how badly things are going with her BF, you're going to kill off her attraction completely. She will completely deny anything you tell her.

What I would do is, hit a party or a bar with her and some friends, get some drinks down and lay your game down on her. It's been my experience that alcohol always brings out true feelings :up:

Also, don't make her a goal of any sort. Tell her she is just a friend and tell your friends that as well. Continue to date and see other girls as you have.
 

Microphone Fiend

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Mack Action Hero said:
Damn do I feel dumb reading my old posts. Might as well tell what happened though: I banged the bejeezus out of that smokin hot girl, she cheated on her bf, wanted a relationship with me.. I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship and banged her some more. What a difference time makes for perspective.. geez
Awwww. I turn into a blubbering mess when I hear happy endings like this :cry:
 

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Mack Action Hero said:
Damn do I feel dumb reading my old posts. Might as well tell what happened though: I banged the bejeezus out of that smokin hot girl, she cheated on her bf, wanted a relationship with me.. I told her I wasn't interested in a relationship and banged her some more. What a difference time makes for perspective.. geez
How?!?!?!?!?!?

I want to do this so badly to a girl who goes to my college. Her boyfriend is not even in the same fucking state that she is in.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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