"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Stealing" girlfriends

Amigu

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I dunno the way I see it, if she leaves him for you then it wasn't a good relationship anyway and if you hadn't ended it something else would have so I don't have a big morl problem with it. On the other had girls like that could have bagage or be on the rebound.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SELF-MASTERY

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Amigu said:
I dunno the way I see it, if she leaves him for you then it wasn't a good relationship anyway and if you hadn't ended it something else would have so I don't have a big morl problem with it. On the other had girls like that could have bagage or be on the rebound.
You don't have a morl problem because that is not a fking word:moon:
 

Remulak

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If you have an interest in dating this girl then go ahead and steal her from her boyfriend. If you just want to fyck and dump her and ruin a relationship then I think you're scum just for the sake of a "challenge".
 

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I say all's fair in love in war, (eventhough if you have morals or believe in karma then you shouldn't be stealing people from their relationships). If she has any decency, she should break up with her BF before dating you.

This crap is some of the reasons why so many spouses cheat and people can't stay together because no one places any value on a relationship.


However, all girls are emotional creatures. They long to be desired and wanted, and anyone who can meet all those desires as well as trigger the right emotions can get any chick that he wants. If blinkwatt's able to put the right buttons and get someones GF, then power to him.
 

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again,

personally, i do feel that all's fair in love and war and that morality doesn't really come into play... eros love is anything but altruistic....

but my personal call for karma is related to my interpretation of the biblical call not to judge... it may be because it takes a personal, psychological toll on YOU.

having perpetrated, you may ever more see yourself as a victim of it... like how murderers fear murder like no other (this i get purely from the movies... but it feels true)....

it may wear down the psychological resources you have for yourself if it should ever happen to you.

anyhoo, as i said at first, whatever you do, you gotta live with it. and if you can, you're set.

delta

p.s. but an interesting point has been made. why go for a chick that's already taken (however rudimentarily)? by your account, you're quite the catch and can have anybody. and the world is FULL... CHOCK FULL of hot chicks that are single. no matter how hot she is, she isn't SINGULARLY SPECTACULARLY HOT is she? all hot chicks are a dime a dozen. so why go after one that's attached?

it sounds like you're trying to rescue her maybe but that can be a kind of a pathological complex too....
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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