Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
If your a real DJ, you dont need to mess with another dudes girl,... You could easily pick up another chick.Originally posted by Fash
A recent incident (in my NY FR) has made me think...
Is it wrong to steal an AFC's girl?
I mean you go out, and you see a total AFC out with a HB. Would it not be ok to take her off his hands for her sake?
Would you do it if you could get away with it?
I mean some may argue that he isn't an AFC if he has a HB for a girlfriend, but surely if she is willing to leave him for you, he is obviously not giving her what she wants.
What do you guys think?
It's all relative.Originally posted by godsgifttowomen
You must be crazy man.
Never said it wasn't.Originally posted by godsgifttowomen
Being a Don Juan is about having morals as well.
Again,it's all relative.Originally posted by godsgifttowomen And besides, there's a LOT more to being a Don Juan than seduction.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Again, it goes back to principles. If you're sincerely interested in the girl, then fair enough. If you're doing it just to prove that you can, then accept the possibility that the "AFC" might "free" you from the tedious task of breathing. Permanently.Originally posted by Supreme1
If a chick is dating an afc, she is most likely bored to death in the relationship. He gives her gifts all the time, does whatever she wants to do, etc. So when she sees a Don Juan, she is attracted to him because he appears as a challenge and much more exciting than her loser boyfriend.
Why not free her from the pain and give her some excitement?
I was sincerely interested in fvcking her, and I made the clear to her when I refused to take her card and asked her back to my hotel there and then.Originally posted by GuitarPlayer
If you're sincerely interested in the girl, then fair enough.
Exactly. Like the old saying goes, power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. It seems to me that someone who would abuse his newfound "DJ powers" is much closer to a punk than a DJ.Originally posted by Jester
The truth.
If you are trying to get someone elses girlfriend, it doesnt mean that theres something wrong with the boyfriend, it DOES mean there is something wrong with YOU.
Everyone in support of this is apparently retarded.
Take a logic class or something.
Girls like DJs. With that said, why would I harder to try and get one girl then another equal girl that would be easier and far less dangerous?
I wouldn't, because im not emotionally ****ed up.
Now take your average AFC who has learned some technique, hes not a DJ, hes still an AFC just with some method. His mind is still crazy and he thinks that if he "takes" a girl away from a boyfriend then he is better than the boyfriend in some way.
This pathetic soul is only trying to validate himself through the loss of others.
I would even wager that most of these people were somehow abused, sexual or otherwise, as a child.
TRUTH.
Thats rediculous. Your scared of getting a girl who has a boyfriend because he might harm you? How can you be at this site and still think like that.Originally posted by GuitarPlayer
Again, it goes back to principles. If you're sincerely interested in the girl, then fair enough. If you're doing it just to prove that you can, then accept the possibility that the "AFC" might "free" you from the tedious task of breathing. Permanently.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I disagree. If you're doing nothing but massaging your ego by proving that you can take her away, then you've not only hurt him, but you've hurt her as well.Originally posted by Supreme1
Thats rediculous. Your scared of getting a girl who has a boyfriend because he might harm you? How can you be at this site and still think like that.
Sounds to me like you view women as prized possessions. Its not like your stealing the guys car or house or something. She doesnt BELONG to her boyfriend. You cant force her to leave him and date you, she does it on her own free will. How is that wrong? Its HER choice! If she dumps her boyfriend for you, she probably had already made up her mind that he wasnt good enough anyway.
If that makes me an evil person for getting her, than i want to be the f'n devil!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Tomatoes Rules:
If a mate likes a girl but hes not made a move: Fair Game
If a mate is going out with a girl: No go area
If a mate is currently shagging her but not going out: No go area
If shes a mates ex: Ask mate. Depending on what he says is either no go or fair game.
If shes in a relationship but i dont know or really care about the guy: Fair Game
If shes married: Fair game but be careful
To be a mate in my world you have to be someone i talk to on a regular basis. Someone i trust and respect.