"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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STDs: The lowdown

everywomanshero

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All of this I have learned from personal experience with doctors and nurses. Maybe of some help to those who have heard conflicting reports.

Hep B:
You just get a vaccination if you're sexually active. I like the one where you get A & B protection in the same shot. It makes the muscle a little sore and I think it is 3 shots each spaced so many weeks apart which they will tell you about. I think in the US this costs less than 200$.

Gonorrhea:
A urine sample given after 2 hours of not pissing will detect it. I had this one about 2 weeks ago. The same test also detects clamidia, but if you are suspect only for clamidia they may not even test you and instead just provide Anti-biotics. The ones I got I had to take all the ABs in one megadose. Unfortunately, you will have to go back after the gonotthea test comes back because the same pills do not work for it, if it's positive then you will also need a shot. The good news is this process is not that expensive.

HIV:
There is an FDA approved home test that one can use. You prick your finger, bled on paper, then seal it all up and mail it in. You then call an # and use a pin to check your results. You're supposed to wait 90 days since the potential exposure to find out definitively. Note that there are a lot of crap "home tests" out there, so you want to make sure you pickup the FDA approved product that has been screened. If you believe you were just exposed for any reason, you should go to the hospital and there is some process they can do but I forgot the name of it (I dont have any first hand experience with that, google if interested).

No experience with other STDs, so good luck and best wishes!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My best friend got herpes from making out with a girl that had a visible sore. Not something most people would do but still...you can get it from just kissing, no joke. And the HIV test is a little misleading because it can be present in your body and not develop symptoms or be able to test for it for up to 12 years after exposure..could be longer I don't remember.
 
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