"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've had girls on the go for the past few months, but was only sleeping with one or two at a time. Now one who I had been sleeping with since August called me to tell me that she went to the doctor and has an std, molluscum. Since starting to sleep with her, I dropped one plate and had sex once with a girl in a night club. I told her on the phone that I havent been having sex with anyone but her since the summer, which was true except I forgot the nightclub incident. How much am I obliged to disclose? She really wants exclusivity and this seems to be giving her a new angle. Maybe I said too much already, maybe not enough I told her what I did out of a sense of fairness and maybe to stop her freaking out. Do I mention the nightclub? She's on the phone now... What to do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey Crow,Since when is Molluscum an STD?.....
 

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Scaramouche said:
Hey Crow,Since when is Molluscum an STD?.....
That's what she told me. I called my doctor, but he hasnt returned my call. There havent been any symptoms on me, but this call has me uncomfortable (psychologically) and a little itchy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bluntmaster said:
Ever heard of GOOGLE? It's this new thing on the internet. Jesus man.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Molluscum_contagiosum
Thanks for the link. I did google it and read the wiki and some other sites. It looks like an STD. Also, since there have been no symptoms, maybe I got lucky. Right now, this specific thread was more to help me figure out how to proceed. The whole call threw me off. My thinking is towards extracting myself from the situation as it's morphing into a call for commitment that I am not really feeling up to.
 

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I've had it. The condition is extremely misunderstood by almost all general practice doctors. I was misdiagnosed three times before I was smart enough to go to an actual dermatologist. A derm PA is just as good as a derm dr.

Basically, you get whitehead zits that eventually pop and a little white "pearl" comes out, thus the name 'molluscum.' It's painless and will eventually go away as your immune system gets stronger. If you want treatment, have a derm cut the sores off with a curette. That does hurt a little, but once the white part is cut out, the sore is no longer contagious. Don't shave, either, that spreads your own sores on your own body.

But just because you were with a girl who had it, doesn't mean that you will get it by any means. The virus is related to the pox virus, and you could have been exposed to it as a child, which would help with your immunity. Until the past 20-30 years, molluscum was only seen in small children. Its existence as an STD is fairly new.
 

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You probably didn't get anything from either one of them. I'm living proof that you can fvck dozens of girls a year and not contract anything. I've been to the doc 3 times the last half of this year, blood drawn, lab work. My doc just called me during work yesterday to tell me that I had .1 on the oral herpes blood work, that 1.1 and above would be positive (thus it's "negligible"). He said that I came back negative on all tests. This is my 3rd time this year getting tested for all STDs. No clamidia, syphilis, herpes, HIV, whatever, nothing. Just inspect the girl you're with before you dive in on her pvss, Always wear a condom (I'd say even during oral in some cases where you're suspicious). If you see bumps you're not sure of on her pvssy, don't give her oral. I usually do a swoop down by her spread thighs to detect anything alarming before I clamp down on her snatch. Just use common sense and don't be ashamed to ask her if she's clean. If she gets offended, just next her as5, because defensiveness may mean she has something and won't tell you for fear you'd tell her friends, etc.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
I'm living proof that you can fvck dozens of girls a year and not contract anything.

Indeed it is luck of the draw. I fvcked one girl that year, my girlfriend from law. She's a state's attorney now.
 
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