staying home every night - why such a turn-off?

[Following_of_Me]

If you didn't want to improve this, why would you be here? I'm sure there are plenty of sites out there for you to question why some people haven't rolled over and died yet, but this isn't one.

 

[The Gamer]

OP : Dude, thats ****ing depressing. With your attitude I wouldn't even want to hang around you man! Whats wrong with you? Everything that makes life fun and enjoying are those parts you call 'filler'. I can't understand how people think that being adventurous is not virtue but vice!

Find some energy dude...

 

[DJVladdy]

Go to a psychiatrist and tell him you have ADD (im not kidding) ask for some adderall - that might help you pull your head out of ur ass and get some confidence.

 

[sharkbeat]

Like someone said in another thread, its fun or whatever in the beginning but then after so many years the "fun" fades and they just stay home every night. If that's going to happen eventually anyway, and everyone knows its going to happen anyway, why not cut to the chase and just start doing that right away? That's how regular people live...regular people just stay home every night and watch tv (or in my case play video games and go on the internet). Regular people just go to work, pay the bills grow old and die just like my sig says. That's real life. What's the point of all this silly stuff like going out and dancing, going out with friends, etc? That's not who I am, not who I want to be...and pretending that it is would be just that, pretending. I would like a wife or live-in gf to have sex with and just sit around the house and look pretty for me (and no kids, I don't like kids), but if I can't be me, be who I want to be, then I'd rather be alone.

People don't stay at home every night after they are married. Not all of them. Couples that do typically have some stressful life, overweight, and boring. Their children become boring as they are not used to have fun, and thus become the future AFCs. The generation continues.

This is how we want to change life. Life is far more interesting than TV. You just haven't got a taste of it and you are afraid (damn afraid) to step out. If you have a problem with it, then you won't go anywhere.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The OP is a 35 y/o virgin.

btw, "fun" is the number one thing that women say they want in a man. How fun does this guy sound?

To the OP, I know you aren't happy. You would not have picked out that user name if you were. Unless you want to remain who you are, then you need to realize that at least in the eyes of women, you suck at life. You're a boring, uptight, depressing, negative, Captain Bringdown of a person. If you want to remain a bitter virgin with a very safe and predictable life, then don't change a thing about yourself.

However, the good news is that you really can be whoever you want to be. If I can give you one piece of advice, it would be to go take some risks. Get a motorcycle, take up an adrenaline sport, do something a little dangerous. If ever there was anyone who needed to smoke some weed or eat some mushrooms, it is uptight people like you.

Here is a video you should watch.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMLSyOMiYd4

It does not matter exactly what you do, but you need to learn how to have fun and be fun. Often that involves taking some sort of risk. Risk is not bad for you; avoiding it entirely is what has made you a 'lonesome loser.' Your life does not have to be this way; it is all up to you.

btw, I stay home almost every night with my girlfriend and have great sex. That's what I did tonight.

 

[K2000kidd]

Hey man I used to BE you
but you tend to think in extremes, Homebody vs Party Animal
I never liked going out drinking/clubbing with my friends cuz I hated the fkn noise and there was always fkn drama involved. someone always getting arrested or bea up, or DWI'ing at the end of the night. One day i got pissed and decided I just wanted to get the hell out of the house a few times a week so I joined a golf league at work and made new friends that way, then i met these other guys who like paintballing, MORE new friends and thru them I met these girls who brought me to dave and busters on my birthday and now i know most of their friends. Guess what I have a LIFE, it just doesn't involve Nightclubs and getting twisted every friday.
But you do have to leave the house friend!!!! and you have to have stories to tell, No one makes friends at home.
You don't have to be a hardcore party guy to fit in just be a little more interesting.

Oh and step away from the Xbox this weekend

 

[K2000kidd]

Hey man I used to BE you
but you tend to think in extremes, Homebody vs Party Animal
I never liked going out drinking/clubbing with my friends cuz I hated the fkn noise and there was always fkn drama involved. someone always getting arrested or bea up, or DWI'ing at the end of the night. One day i got pissed and decided I just wanted to get the hell out of the house a few times a week so I joined a golf league at work and made new friends that way, then i met these other guys who like paintballing, MORE new friends and thru them I met these girls who brought me to dave and busters on my birthday and now i know most of their friends. Guess what I have a LIFE, it just doesn't involve Nightclubs and getting twisted every friday.
But you do have to leave the house friend!!!! and you have to have stories to tell, No one makes friends at home.
You don't have to be a hardcore party guy to fit in just be a little more interesting.

Oh and step away from the Xbox this weekend

 

[imaginemypotential]

well you guys arent any help at all, majority of you are bashing him...no homo. Staying home every night can be predictable and make you have irrational thoughts. TO me its a turn-off for women because your PREDICTABLE .. i guess

 

[diggitydoggz]

honestly, i really doubt that the OP is happy with his life if all he is doing is sitting around watching tv every day and not doing anything with his life. dude, isn't there anything that gets you excited? personally there are so many things that get my juices flowing: i love designing video games, drawing, rapping, smoking weed with friends and jammin out, etc. Any activity that you are passionate about can be taken far and can introduce you to whole other worlds/groups of people.

I find it hard to believe that you are passionate about staying home and doing nothing. If that is really what gets your juices flowing then i guess nothing that anybody has said in this thread is valid. if you really don't enjoy socializing and going out and joking around with friends and if staying home and doing nothing really gets you giddy and jumpy with excitement, then i guess you'll be happy even if you are alone and never going out. I find this really doubtful though, I can't imagine anyone who gets pumped up about doing nothing.

I think you should think hard about what you are interested in and run with it. You are 35 years old and it doesn't seem like you have any passion. I would be very terrified if I were you.

 

[LonesomeLoser]

I think you should think hard about what you are interested in and run with it. You are 35 years old and it doesn't seem like you have any passion. I would be very terrified if I were you.

Terrified, of what?

 

[diggitydoggz]

Of not experiencing all the wonders that life has to offer... you only get one you know. But like I said, if that is how you like to live your life then go right ahead.. and I'm not saying that with any spite at all. I'm not one to tell people how to live their lives, I just personally could not imagine myself living like that and I have a hard time imagining someone who feels fulfilled doing so.

 

[DJVladdy]

People, imagine showing up to an nice dinner/event/party etc or any decent place for that matter... dressed in a wife beater, sweatpants, and smelling like $hit. ... Disrespectful to everyone in that place isnt it?



Same thing with coming to a site where people come to solve their problems and develop, site like this one -- and making a name "lonesome loser" and making some half-assed signature about live being a filler. And then asking
stupid fuking questions that you already know the answer to....

You understand my little "analogy"