"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Stay vigilant my dudes/DJ’s
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
reminds me of judge judy and some girl who thought she will get the kid cuz shes the mother lmao
**** you cant make this chit up some adult women are like that WTF
Did not see that angle. The therapist led her to divulge her real desires to the guy prior to the marriage… Completely agree.
oh the commenters say the therapist convinced her to cheat on him
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No. The therapist encouraged her to be truthful when him before what was destined to become another failed marriage via cheating…
its scary because shes probably thinking like average women does btu shes the only one who went to therapist wiith it
so reality is they all want to cuck you even before marriage
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neh, therapists are supposed to get you to live in your reality, with yourself and other people. aka not cheat or lie to other people to get what you want.
the idea behind this is, if she wasnt honest with her intended, she would be entering into an eventual unhappy marriage and probably, eventually be depressed or in a real mess, or both. The therapist encourages her to live in her truth and allow others to make their own choices if they want to live in your truth.
Among ther things, lying is a way to control people's emotional responses. the therapist was encouraging her not to do that.
im sure it was a shock for him but he's lucky, he dodged a huge bullet.
dodged a bullet? so not all women are like that?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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not all women are like what? wanting to get married and have a one sided open relationship?
Try not to think in such absolute terms. Every woman is different from the last one…
They share some gender characteristics and behaviors, but they are not ALL the same.
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ChristopherColumbus
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Find that story hard to believe.... i.e.; looks like a bit of fiction.
She wanted to be able to sleep with other men, but wasn't prepared to extend that privilege to her partner??
It's like saying you want someone for a pet. And no-one not bat crazy is going to do this.
The therapist did you a solid. A thank you letter is in order.
Don’t ever get married. That’s where you were a fool. I was married 11 years, 3 kids, divorced 3 with 50/50 customs and what a fvck show with my ex.
If you don’t write the Therapist a thank you letter, I just might...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
it feels like she always wanted to do it and the therapist gave her emotional boost she needed
Chev.Chelios
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read sex at dawn if you want to understand and heal any wounds triggered from this episode
AttackFormation
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No he didn't, that's just what she told him and he like the rest of men wanted to believe. It's easier on the disney dream and ego. Men need to get it through their thick skulls that women are more likely to have had more sex than them than vice versa and they know you don't want to know that so they tell you what you want to delude yourself with.