"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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stay friends or not with ex ?

yogy

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So now I have this ex that wants to stay friends with me.I never remain friend with my ex's,I just don't like to be "just friends" with somebody that I want to f!ck.
But this time I am not sure.She has a lot of cool guyfriends/girlfriends that I like to party with :woo:
So what do you think about this "just friends" with your ex's ???
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I knew this dude that dumped one of the loves of his lifes because she was old and getting ugly.. In favor of plenty of new young chicks.. Months went by, they are just friends now.. Because she has a lot of HBs as her friends..

It serves your reputation to stay friends.. She spreads good word, they see that you are cool, and you get to meet new women..
 

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It serves your reputation to stay friends.. She spreads good word, they see that you are cool, and you get to meet new women..
But when I'll introduce to her my present/next girl she might get jealous/angry or whatever and all the
She spreads good word
might not be that good.Am I right ?
 

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It ended ok.No fighting,no tears or whatever.We both decided that something is missing there so...
The only thing that really worked was the sex :up: .
So now I am thinking why not a FB ? :p But I never tried that with an ex so don't know how to go there :nervous:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So now I have this ex that wants to stay friends with me

If you heard another guy talking about how he treats her rough in bed, would that bother you? This question is a good measure of whether or not you are ready to be friends with an ex.
 

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You mutually decided to end the relationship so its alright to remain friends with your ex if you really are comfortable with doing that.

Plus it seems the benefit is you get to meet new people and chicks and keep a good reputation with that crowd.

There's a lot of good to be had here.

The only time I think you should put this friendship to rest is if you or she can't handle seeing eachother with someone else as then it could turn ugly but if you two do see eachother with another person and are fine with that then hey you picked yourself up a good friend to have.

Edit: LMFAO, Bible Belt gave you a pretty good and brutal measuring stick you can test yourself with of how far removed you are emotionally from the relationship. Test yourself with his advice and see if friendship is right for you after all.
 

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Thanks for advices.I think I'll skip this friendship.
I think it will be difficult to handle seeing each other with someone else (at least for now).
 

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Good for you for not bullsh!tting yourself. It takes me sex with about 3-4 new girls to get over an old girl, and that stays true no matter how long it takes to bang those 3-4 girls.
 

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Good for you for not bullsh!tting yourself.
:D

One more thing.
What about FB?I mean is it good to have your ex as FB(not necessary with this one but in general)? And how to do that ????
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do you need to make a fixed decision on whether to be close friends or avoid each other like the plague anyway? Why not just be friendlyish acquaintances that don't go out of each other's way to contact each other but will have a pleasant conversation if you heppen to bump into each other anyway.
 

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Oh and don't be lazy and just get your sex from elsewhere. A FB situation will just make it harder to get over her as a gf, no matter how objective you think you can be.
 
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