If there's one thing I hate, it's having to suck up to people in order to reach a high-status position in my life. Yet, even if you have yourown business or company, you'll always have to deal with people.
And there will be clients you'll still have to treat that way.
I worked as a secretary for a bank manager and I clearly saw the disconnect between him and other people. In fact, this person was truly a "snake" in the sense that with every interaction he had with people, he was simply inclined to make fun of them and fawn over them, and the moment they left his room, or his phone call ended, he was complaining about them.
This man have a skill to take advantage of anything.
I've always told myself two things: I'm not naturally inclined to be like him, but if I learned to behave like him, I could make a career, even if I'd lose my integrity.
He had created this famous "name" with his firm, and in the city where he worked, he was well-regarded, even though no one knew that in reality, his clients who used his services were being ripped off by him and the suppliers who ate off of him... and therefore took home a little money they weren't aware of.
They were always good at putting on a facade of being nice, workaholic people, but underneath they were terrible people.
They surrounded themselves with good people, and it all seemed like one big family.
I always wondered whether, in life, I would have found it necessary to learn these qualities and start applying them, or whether I would have maintained my identity and integrity at the expense of status, and career growth.
I simply see people who are more "politically" and "socially" successful as having higher status than those who have real skills but are required to work in a specific role (e.g., surveyors, architects, software engineers, etc.).
It's as if these politicians had no skills other than that of manipulating people.
And they had a lot of women under them... you can imagine how many.
Who knows what you would have done in life, what kind of person you would have become, would you learn those skills?
If you had the opportunity to spend 10 years finding your own path, but could fail, but maintain your integrity, or if you had 10 years to follow a path already explored, but had to lose your integrity to flatter the people who would put you in high-status roles, and then continue to pretend like that throughout your life, and your career, what would you have done?
And there will be clients you'll still have to treat that way.
I worked as a secretary for a bank manager and I clearly saw the disconnect between him and other people. In fact, this person was truly a "snake" in the sense that with every interaction he had with people, he was simply inclined to make fun of them and fawn over them, and the moment they left his room, or his phone call ended, he was complaining about them.
This man have a skill to take advantage of anything.
I've always told myself two things: I'm not naturally inclined to be like him, but if I learned to behave like him, I could make a career, even if I'd lose my integrity.
He had created this famous "name" with his firm, and in the city where he worked, he was well-regarded, even though no one knew that in reality, his clients who used his services were being ripped off by him and the suppliers who ate off of him... and therefore took home a little money they weren't aware of.
They were always good at putting on a facade of being nice, workaholic people, but underneath they were terrible people.
They surrounded themselves with good people, and it all seemed like one big family.
I always wondered whether, in life, I would have found it necessary to learn these qualities and start applying them, or whether I would have maintained my identity and integrity at the expense of status, and career growth.
I simply see people who are more "politically" and "socially" successful as having higher status than those who have real skills but are required to work in a specific role (e.g., surveyors, architects, software engineers, etc.).
It's as if these politicians had no skills other than that of manipulating people.
And they had a lot of women under them... you can imagine how many.
Who knows what you would have done in life, what kind of person you would have become, would you learn those skills?
If you had the opportunity to spend 10 years finding your own path, but could fail, but maintain your integrity, or if you had 10 years to follow a path already explored, but had to lose your integrity to flatter the people who would put you in high-status roles, and then continue to pretend like that throughout your life, and your career, what would you have done?