"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Statically proven 2% of gay men getting all sex than the 98% , could that be applied for straights?

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Source : the Okupid founder book ( Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One's Looking).

The founder didnt talk about straight men and women relationships , and I think mainly to not discourage men (and maybe women ) from using his service , he only refer to some known facts like men like young women , etc .
I wounder what would be the ratio for straight men and women , if we go with the assumption of the writer , he said most behaviors and statistic of straights apply for gays and lesbians too , so if you reverse that you will get 2% of men getting all the sex (outside of relationships ) .
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If I understand you right, you're saying 2% of gay males are getting most of the gay sex? I don't know if I believe that, but it sounds similar to the idea that 20% of the guys are doing 80% of the banging (for heteros).

What makes that interesting is this. It means that it's not so much WOMEN who desire the elite male, it's something about MALES themselves that make only the elite males desirable.
 

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It is true.Women fvck pretty and exiting guys keeping other at bay until they are 26-29+ or single mom and ready for 'something serious'.I dont blame them.If you had so much choice like they do you would do same and have sex with hot,slutty blondes every day and then maybe later look for slave aka wify.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What makes that interesting is this. It means that it's not so much WOMEN who desire the elite male, it's something about MALES themselves that make only the elite males desirable.
Yes , I think the other part of his book answer it , he said most men (more than 50%) considered ugly in the eyes of women on Okupid , and he said that is correct when you compared dating sites to facebook the ratio of handsome men are higher on facebook. So that mean few men are really considered sexy enough to be eligible for sexual act whether by other men or women.
I think most men dont care about their look from the old saying "the Man is not in his look but in his action" which is true in that time but not in current social media image based dating when honor and courage have 0 impact of women decision to choosing you on Tender for example
 

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it's something about MALES themselves that make only the elite males desirable.
They are available thats whats about them.20 years ago to meet men you need social networks or clubbing, now you can go to internet and your search field can span 1000 miles or even whole world.
20 , 30 ... years ago amount of males female knows or can access was limited so they were much more kind to 'ugly' men.Unmarried 30 old or single mom was fvcked, now these trashy women can still find mates
because of infinite choice.
20 years ago hitting on girl was something now she gets hits on 100 times per day online so it means nothing, value of man is low because high value men are easier accessible.


Now women hold for big deal forever because he may be just one click away.
 
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