"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Statements not questions.

ElStud

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Alright before we start this off I just want to say that I'm no Don Juan and I haven't gotten much success yet, but here's a tip that DID help my sets improve. The concept is simple, statements not questions. This is where a lot of newcomers mess up and I know I use to mess up on this too. Most guys in there newbie phase will try to open with girls asking questions, trying for rapport. "How's it going?" "How was your day?" "How was class?" "What's your name?" and most likely the girl'll get bored. Statements to me, are just more straighter to the point than questions.

Question: So is working 8 hours a week hard?
Statement: Working 8 hours a week must be hard for you guys.

Question: Do you guys like the music here?
Statement: They've got some pretty cool music playing up here.

Question: Are you picking out something for your boyfriend?
Statement: You looked like you were trying to pick out something for your boyfriend.

Question: Are you guys Freshman?
Statement: You guys must be Freshman because I didn't see you around here last year.

Question: Are you guys excited for the game?
Statement: I know you guys are excited for the game tonight.

And that's basically what making a statement is, it's not asking a question, but actually making a statement about the girl. As you can see with that last one, you can also assume things in statements.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ElStud said:
Alright before we start this off I just want to say that I'm no Don Juan and I haven't gotten much success yet, but here's a tip that DID help my sets improve. The concept is simple, statements not questions. This is where a lot of newcomers mess up and I know I use to mess up on this too. Most guys in there newbie phase will try to open with girls asking questions, trying for rapport. "How's it going?" "How was your day?" "How was class?" "What's your name?" and most likely the girl'll get bored. Statements to me, are just more straighter to the point than questions.

Question: So is working 8 hours a week hard?
Statement: Working 8 hours a week must be hard for you guys.

Question: Do you guys like the music here?
Statement: They've got some pretty cool music playing up here.

Question: Are you picking out something for your boyfriend?
Statement: You looked like you were trying to pick out something for your boyfriend.

Question: Are you guys Freshman?
Statement: You guys must be Freshman because I didn't see you around here last year.

Question: Are you guys excited for the game?
Statement: I know you guys are excited for the game tonight.

And that's basically what making a statement is, it's not asking a question, but actually making a statement about the girl. As you can see with that last one, you can also assume things in statements.
Some better quotes:
You look like you have had a hard life/day at work.
You actually dance to this?
Unless your BF is gay, he isn't going to like that.
I hate freshmen, they can't hang or do anything right.
I ****ing hate the Patriots, the Bills do still suck. (Bills lost 10 to a billion tonight)

On a side note, I never give a crap if they have a BF, he doesn't mean anything to me. Also bringing up music is generally accepted as being lame. Being a freshman is a A+ neg hit, I love using that, and it doesn't have to be school related. Telling them that X team blows and needs to jump off a bridge is good in more ways than one, there are unlimited uses for that one, regardless of which team they care about.

Rapport is far far far over rated, tension is the ****. I don't need to validate myself or suck up to anyone. You have to turn the game around on them and make them validate themselves to you.
 
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