"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Statements made by chicks that put up red flags

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Thought this might be a different topic about statements chicks make that throw up a red flag.

To me the three I love the most and a chick is telling you she's most likely a slore and or trash are:

"Don't judge me/don't judge a book by it's cover", It's none of your business, and don't be closed minded.

If I ever heard a chick say "Don't judge me" I know she has no solid, logical explaination or defense. It's best to not bother going further at that point because unfortunately you aren't going to reason with that chick. Like it or not though we are all judged and will continue to be by others.


The "Don't be closed minded" is when you know you a re dealing with a complete "open minded" slvt, druggie, whack job who expects anyone who is "worthy" to go along with whatever she says.

Those types...are absolute no debating unapologetic trash.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I guess you are talking about red flags in term of relationship material but I believe we should add also red flags in terms on sexual availability.

I found that any girls which talks about any disease/problem she has/had its simply trying to turn you off so you dont make a move, it could be a cavity in her mouth or her problem with milky cofee and dyarrea.

It seems as if they are trying to convince you that they are not a good deal, while an interested girl would be more silent than a captured spy regarding her physical problems and past medical/estethical issues.
 

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"everyone hates me" ,OR "i know everyone hates me" OR "im good to them ,but they are hating me blahblah blah"

^ toxic chick. BPD? idk anyone knows if this is BPD or just toxic?
 

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Trash talking about exes, sometimes a red flag
 

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"No ones ever questioned MY piety" yelling

"With ____, the sex wasnt that good, it was more of a business thing" straight faced

"Hurt people hurt people" nodding, with a smile

"you sure lick a good pvssy" while putting up fense in the backyard

"I'm no good" sad, on the phone
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best".

"I hate you forever".

"Forever and ever".

"Shut up" or interjecting or cutting in a rude way while you're about to talk / in the middle of a sentence (double red flag).

"*** inside me" --while holding your ass so you can't pull out.
 

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This subject comes up from time to time. There are some not-so-old threads floating around with every female line under the sun. Not a bad idea to revisit the topic once in a while, though.

A red flag for me: "Most of my friends are guys". When you hear that, head for the hills.

Also, if she starts making weird confessions out of the blue, like she has to get it off her chest before you go into the restaurant or wherever, you will absolutely find eventually that you have a BPD on your hands. The confessions are usually relatively minor things like a bad financial decision, things like that. When they come out of the blue before you're about to have fun with her, you are in danger, Will Robinson. I have found this to be a prime indicator of the dreaded BPD, although I'm still a bit puzzled about this particular mechanism.
 

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Like it or not though we are all judged and will continue to be by others.
That is a central foundation from the laws of power. You have to judge character to protect yourself. “You shouldn’t judge others” is really saying “You shouldn’t judge ME.”
Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery—emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

Law 14: Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy

Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
Many things we say are strategic, plays of framing the issue. In the 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene advises to look for the small things. People put their facade masks of who they want you to think they are, or perhaps who they ideally would like to be, but it’s the small things which leak out, beyond our conscious control, which are the most honest and reliable. There’s a wonderful scene from an episode of House, where House is stuck at the airport. While waiting, he muses in a remark how it’s the small things beyond our awareness which reveals someone’s diagnosis, and there are scenes in other episodes where I could tell the writers have a copy of the 48 laws.

Warning flag: “I haven’t had a boyfriend in a long time.”
 

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"I just need a guy who understands me."

You hear this one and you're screwed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I'm a good person".

No, you really aren't. You've done sh!tty things to people who reacted appropriately to the crap you threw at them. You are playing the victim card, and crying out in pain, but in reality it's because you got caught.
 

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djjizzyjeff said:
Thought this might be a different topic about statements chicks make that throw up a red flag.

To me the three I love the most and a chick is telling you she's most likely a slore and or trash are:

"Don't judge me/don't judge a book by it's cover", It's none of your business, and don't be closed minded.

If I ever heard a chick say "Don't judge me" I know she has no solid, logical explaination or defense. It's best to not bother going further at that point because unfortunately you aren't going to reason with that chick. Like it or not though we are all judged and will continue to be by others.


The "Don't be closed minded" is when you know you a re dealing with a complete "open minded" slvt, druggie, whack job who expects anyone who is "worthy" to go along with whatever she says.

Those types...are absolute no debating unapologetic trash.
"Why can't you just like me how I am?" when presenting a possible girlfriend with the idea of lifting with me.
 

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"I hate men"

"Just because I dress like this...."

"I blacked out last night and I don't remember anything!!" (over 25)

"Why is it ok for men to sleep around but women are called sluts and wh0res??"

"Men don't want relationships anymore"


"I stopped seeing him because the sex was bad."

All these statements mean she is a mega slut who has seen more sausage than a deli. Either that or she is a low quality at best. Pump and dump material with few exceptions.

Just for fun.. here is a REAL quote from Megan Fox:

-"I like the bad-boy types. Generally the guy I'm attracted to is the guy in the club with all the tattoos and nail polish. He's usually the lead singer in a punk band and plays guitar. But my serious boyfriends are relatively clean-cut, nice guys. So it's strange." - Megan Fox
 
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